What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA / PA / South Central
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Business Owner
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 16 years ago (2000)
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Monique was a hot redhead who had just turned 19, a freshman in college. She was about 5’4″, head cheerleader in high school, 34B, probably about 120lbs.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met at the beginning of our freshman year, living on the same floor of the dorm. We became friends from the start, and evolved into friends with benefits. She came up to me one day, and said that she was super horny and wanted to have some fun.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We fucked for well over two hours in more positions than I could ever remember. At one point, we were in a 69 that lasted a good thirty minutes. She was a very loud moaner. Both of us had only one partner before, so we tried everything together that we wanted to try before but hadn’t. Oral and vaginal only, and nothing kinky (although if I could do it all again, it would be nothing but kinky!). I absolutely loved the experience with her because she showed true passion. Her moans were so sexual and such a turn on.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We didn’t really speak about it – we had the mutual understanding that if either of us ever needed some action, that we could approach the other. There was another time where she wanted to get me off, but that was the only other sexual interaction that we had. I later found out that she told many people about our 2 hour marathon sex fest, and lied about many of the details. It didn’t diminish the experience, but it changed how I viewed her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I didn’t talk to anyone about it – it was something that I wanted to keep to myself because I wanted to respect the privacy of the intimacy we shared. She did not feel the same way, and told everyone she spoke to.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The emotional connection
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? N/A
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? N/A
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? N/A
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have had many hookups, more kinky than not. This was my first casual hookup, and it has enabled me to view my later hookups in a different light. I think if there is a passion between two people, and they share consent, then casual sex can be very positive.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Absolutely love it
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