What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Mexico, Guadalajara
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Translator
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? A slight inclination to masculinity
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her in Puerto Vallarta a few days ago. She is French, I am Mexican. She speaks little Spanish and I speak a little bit of French too. We met at her hotel and went to a gay bar to drink a beer. The place was empty so I invited her to my place. We couldn’t get any beers because it was late so we went there and just talked. I was hesitant to let the encounter go sexually any further so I just talked to her. She decided to go, but I think there was some good chemistry between us. She was going to Acapulco and I was going to Guadalajara the next morning. When I got to Guadalajara, I found out she was also there.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We decided to meet again, casually. We went to the zoo and then back to her hotel. We were not sure how to start but we both knew by now we wanted to go all the way. I was cold… really cold and nervous. After we talked for a while, about very interesting and trivial things, we started to get closer and closer in that subtle way physical things begin to happen. We touched our hands and arms and broke little by little the wall between us. I had been at ease with her the whole time while we walked and talked, and in her room too so everything went on naturally.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She kissed me and everything started to get better and better. We kissed harder and deeper, and touched more intimately until we just got naked. I lowered my hand to her thighs and then inside her. She was loud and quick, she enjoyed my fingers inside her and that surprised me quite a bit. I continued touching her and kissing her until she came. I was having fun and enjoying my time and her pleasure. I was also quite wet myself. She touched me too, but I was in inconvenient days so she couldn’t do much more for me. It was a real shame, because I really wanted to feel her fingers. I continued touching her, a few times, and I think she came more than twice. The whole time we were smiling, kissing, looking at each other’s eyes. I think we felt a real connection. A sort of bond. We talked about it. I actually wanted to stay the night and cuddle and keep talking, but I somehow felt that it wasn’t correct or that I was invading her room so I left, extra-mega-uber happy and smiling all the way. The next day, we met again and the same thing happened. We went out and then came back to her room and had sex again until she left to the bus station.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? When she left, I was happy with the experience, satisfied with the connection we had had and eager for more. Maybe too eager… I missed her terribly and wanted to go after her. Now I’m thinking on going to where she lives to meet again. Her scent and her taste is gone by now, I can only remember the facts and have a deep emotional feeling, but I can hardly feel her anymore.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To cheer myself up, Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To no-one yet.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? To have met her. To have met someone new. The whole experience was amazing.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That she had to leave.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I used to think casual sex was a very cold and practical thing and I actually felt close to her. I also think I learnt something.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s great. I think it can lead to serious relationships or be a nice way to pass the time with someone. I’m sometimes a bit afraid of diseases and misunderstandings, but I accept that fear as part of the equation.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great way to vent, at a personal leve, and a cool way to open the taboo of casual relationships, which have always been regarded as negative and dangerous.

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