What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Operations management
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The revenge sex felt great
How long ago did this hookup happen? Six months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her thirteen years ago when we were in the same karate club in school. She was slim, petite, long brown hair, Jewish, somewhat pretty. I was sort of interested in her, but she had a brief fling with my friend who was also in the karate club, so nothing happened. We were in the same karate club for almost three years before we went our separate ways.
Fast forward to a year ago, I saw her at a friend’s party as she was leaving. I said hi and she said hi back as she was leaving with friends to go to another party. She didn’t remember who I was. I was a bit upset about that because I took it that I was not at all memorable to her.
Then I saw her again at a speed dating event this summer. Again, she didn’t remember me. She looked hot in her short skirt, revealing her smooth toned legs and stylish heels. Thirteen years later, she looked much more sexy with her thirty-something professionalism and stylish confidence.
I wanted to fuck her from the moment I saw her at the speed date. In fact, I jerked off when I got home from the speed dating event that night after seeing her. She looked so sexy.
To my surprise, we were a match at the speed dating event. We set up a date. I was careful to craft my story so that it was consistent with the past, in case she did remember me. (But she didn’t.) I just left out the part about the karate club. She was surprised and excited to hear that we went to the same school together. I knew she was a journalism student back then and a writer now, so I connect with her on interests I recalled from her past. The date went well.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After the first date, I gave her a firm embrace and a hot kiss which she seemed to like. That led to a second date and a third date. The connection was palpable. After the third date, we went back to her place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After entering her apartment, we started kissing passionately. I really wanted to show her a good time, to show her what she missed by passing me over years earlier. I was completely selfless in giving her plenty of oral sex, then fingering her. I even fingered her anally and vaginally at the same time. That brought her to an orgasm. Then I started orally again on her pussy, leading to a second orgasm from her. By then she was begging me to fuck her. So I penetrated her and fucked her hard. I had a thick condom, so I was able to go deep and hard for a good sustained amount of time, which she enjoyed. Then we went doggy style and back to missionary before I came.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She enjoyed it and so did I. She texted me the next day telling me what a great time she had. I was conflicted about a relationship. If she passed me by before, she would likely do so again, and there were things I knew about the kind of guys she liked to date from when I knew her 13 years ago and I was not her type back then. Still, if there was good sex to be had, I went with it. Knowing she was not into casual sex, I continued being romantic in our dates. We went out two more times and had great sex again after those two dates. Then I ghosted on her. She tried to contact me twice, but I never replied.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Revenge / Getting even
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? None.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I finally got to date her after 13 years. This time I was really sexually attracted to her, so fucking her was awesome.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I debated going into a long term relationship with her, but knowing that she rejected me years earlier and didn’t even remember me was an emotional buzz kill. Also, there were doubts it would have lasted knowing the kind of guys she likes to date. I wish I could have fucked her more, but cutting it off was for the best.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was very good experience. Knowing that I had nothing to lose, I was more forward sexually. I know that sexual aggressiveness was a turn on for her and it got me laid. I will be more sexually assertive in the future. Also, knowing that I would ghost on her made the sex even more powerful and enjoyable. I really wanted to make her want me and to make her miss the sex after I left. That mindset gave a big boost to my sexual abilities and heightened my enjoyment too.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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