What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Writing
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall, with blue eyes and red hair. He wasn’t that good looking. I talked on the phone with him four hours during the 3 months I had known him before the hookup. I met them in the city I lived in, he didn’t live in the same city as me. Before the hookup, I had felt like I wanted to have a little fun because there were no real feelings.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I took a Greyhound for seven hours to his city and stayed at his house for five days. There wasn’t really any planning involved it was kind of an act of spontaneity.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Well, I sucked his dick, then we started having sex in the missionary position and it ended in less than five minutes because he had come right away. He was a virgin.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I wanted to go home right away because I was disappointed.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to an ex-best friend about it and they laughed because it was hilarious.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? Because it was a waste of money. It didn’t last long.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got to see the city he lived in while he was at work.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The disappointment of it not lasting long.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was not worth it.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex. It’s fun and you get to experience the way different people have sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s pretty freaking awesome.
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