by Lisa Ledger

Gender: Female
Age: 33
Race/ethnicity: White European
Current location: China
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Kindergarten teacher
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 100+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Rooftop Tongue Twister

How long ago did this hookup happen? 19 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Short fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Very pretty guy, clean nice soft hair, perfect teeth, tall, slim, toned but not too beefy. He had just gotten a new tattoo. A little Chinese character on his chest. I had snuck into a bar, I was TOTALLY underage, he bought me a few drinks and we flirted. I thought he seemed sweet. Definite boyfriend material.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning was involved. We were chatting in a bar, he knew a friend of mine, and he invited me to go for a walk with him to “have a little smoke”

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed for a while, then he went down on me. It was my first experience of oral sex. It was AMAZING! I lost all feeling in my hands and feet! However, we did not have full sex as he didn’t have a condom. He was very sweet and considerate. Even when I stopped him at the last second because of no condom.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None, because we didn’t have sex, in fact that’s the reason we didn’t.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? He was nice, looked like a model. I thought maybe we could become girlfriend and boyfriend, but mostly because I was curious.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We did have a couple of drinks and we smoked some weed. I’m sure that helped to lower my inhibitions.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I’ve never regretted it, I still have a few secret fantasies about it. I never saw him again though. I met my first real boyfriend shortly afterwards and chose to wait to lose my virginity 😉

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my closest friends, and have since told many girlfriends about it. I like to share.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Totally consensual

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nope.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I finally understood what all the fuss was about when it came to oral sex. Plus we found a big open rooftop and did it under the stars!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I was a virgin and underage. So I’m glad we didn’t go all the way, although I wish I had had another chance to finish what we started.

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