by Julie

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Lawrence, KS
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Round 2

How long ago did this hookup happen? Two days ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends-with-benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Known each other for years but have only recently been hanging out. We hooked up a month or two ago. I had really been enjoying our occasional hangouts because they were so mellow.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We got dinner first then I asked if we could go cuddle somewhere, because I needed some physical contact. We cuddled and talked for an hour or so, then he started lightly running his fingers over my hip and stomach, and off we went!

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He went down on me, I went down on him, he spanked me twice while we were making out, and we had sex in the guy-on-top position. I felt very content, but after having had sex with him the last time we hung out, was eager to do so again. He’s always very conscientious of me – though doesn’t read very well whether or not I’ve orgasmed (yet). The sex felt good, but wasn’t great. Prior, we talked about how many partners we had both had, current sexual activity levels, and a threesome he’d had a year prior. During, we discussed whether or not to have sex, the tightness of the condom, and that I liked the noises he made when he got close to orgasm.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did not, but I came close twice. Yes, he did orgasm during sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used male condoms. STIs were not discussed specifically, but timeline of partners was discussed.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Attraction, desire for sex, wanting comfort.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Both had a beer a few hours before.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both went to the bathroom and put on underwear, then sat on his bed. We talked for another half an hour and he massaged my calves. Then we went to bed, sans cuddling. It was a positive experience, one that I would like to have more frequently. I would like to increase how often we interact, but don’t think it’s likely to happen as he sometimes distances himself. I’m wary of becoming too interested in him because I exited a several-year relationship a few months ago and want to enjoy single time.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I mentioned it to several female friends, who all seemed entertained for me. My best friend was pleased that I’d had a good time, and knows that I’m trying to work through the small crush I’ve developed.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual and wanted for both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was the massage after! The worst thing was not cuddling after and knowing that I’m developing a little crush, which makes it harder to casually interact with him. I’m all for casual sex in a good friendship; it is wonderfully comfortable!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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