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by Zain

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Pakistan
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Beautician
What’s your current relationship status?
Religious affiliation: Muslim
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Lust
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? Last month

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s absolutely the most handsome man I have ever met in my life. Charming personality a good gentleman. I have known him for more than 3 years now. He is from my neighborhood. He works in Bahrain so whenever he would come to town we would sneak under a tree or one time I went to his place to have sex.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He came to town and started asking me the same old things like do u still love me wanna meet? So I said oh what the heck what could go wrong since I loved him very much.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I went to his place I was scared of getting caught. I get there he took me to his living room and started kissing and hugging and then did it on his couch. Vaginal sex. It felt good to cuddle and hug him and kiss him. He is a really good kisser. However, the penetration part I did not enjoy at all. No orgasm and I was really disappointed. And we din talk since then after. It ended on bad terms as he still hasn’t contacted me.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt used and abused and prefer not to talk about it to anyone. He promises to marry me and he didn’t even contact me after what a jerk

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Power / Dominance, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? Because it’s religiously wrong and morally wrong

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting to be with the person

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? No orgasm

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Don’t ever hook up it’s a trick and it makes u feel worse than it’s supposed to make you feel better

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s not for everyone

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its good

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!