What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is around 6 feet tall, around 180, very fit with short brown hair. I have know him for around 6 years. I knew him because he actually dated my sister for a year when I was younger but they broke up and she now lives in a different province and is married. I always thought he was hot, lol. We would always joke around, but nothing serious and when they broke up everyone was still friends, but eventually I lost contact with him for about 5 years.
I started taking dance lessons, ball room, swing, and tango but decided to check out the Salsa night. I walked in to the studio the one night, to find out that he is one of the instructors. We instantly hit it off again joking around like it was yesterday, and because it was a social dance night he ended up showing me the basics. There was a big social dance party advertised the next weekend and he said I should come but I told him I didn’t want to because I still didn’t know much. He told me we could meet through the week if I wanted and learn so more stuff so I wouldn’t feel like such a beginner so I told him ok.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I actually met him at his place and things were very professional at first lol. I honestly went there with no intentions of anything happening and I really don’t think they were his either since we have both talked about it since then. Well the Salsa was going really well and then we moved on to Bachata. It is the slower more intimate dance, kinda like going to a club then having a slow dance thrown in. It is very grindy with each partner basically straddling each others leg with lots of hip movement.
It didnt take too long and the ginding got a bit heavier and the dancing even closer together. I was definitely into it and getting into him. His hands were over my arms, around my waist, and over my stomach. I could feel him pulling me into him and I wasn’t resisting, lol. At this point I hadn’t been with anyone in around 8 months, I was very turned on and my body was wanting to be touched all over, I wanted him so bad. We were still grinding away to the music and when his one hand was on my stomach I took my hand, put it on his and moved it up over my breasts. He got the idea. Our dancing turned to making out and we eventually moved to his room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We quickly undressed each other and were making out, touching and playing with each other. Neither of us had any condoms so I gave him a blowjob and then he went down on me. We both came. We were both tired from the dancing and the oral sex so we snuggled up.
He was spooning and cuddling me, and we were both caressing each others arms and legs running our hands over each other. Things started to get more intense and I could feel him behind me getting hard again. His hands eventually made it down between my legs and he was playing with me. I was grinding gently against him and was stoking him. Eventually we moved to were he was rubbing his penis against my vagina and it felt so good. We just stayed like that for what felt like a long time, just enjoying the feeling. I honestly think it was an accident as neither of us re-positioned ourselves or maybe it was just that I got wet enough, but all of a sudden on one of his thrusts he was inside me.
We both sort of froze. It completely caught me by surprise but it felt so, so amazing. I think we were laying there in silence for a few seconds and then he asked if he should stop or keep going. I told him “I want you to fuck me”. He asked if I was on the pill and I told him I was. He started thrusting into me while pulling me back into him, his hands all over me. He then rolled me over flat on my stomach and was screwing me from behind. I was cumming in no time. After a bit he told me he wanted to look at me while we fucked so we got into missionary and he kept going.
He was such a good dirty talker, and after a bit he told me he was close to cumming. I told him to cum for me. He had his head right beside my ear, and the way we was fucking me as he basically whispered to me “if you’re on the pill I want to fill your pussy” set me off. I had only let a bf do that to me once but I was so lost in pleasure I told him yes. We fucked for another minute or so and then I felt him tense up and cum. Couldn’t feel it more than normal but knowing he was cumming almost put me over the edge again. We then both just lay there for a while holding each other.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I still go to the dance classes, and we still see each other casually fairly often. Sometimes it feels weird sleeping with him since of his past, but when we are together that is all lost. We have both since discussed STI testing and we are getting tested but we should be ok since it was a while since last partners for both and testing since then. Topic of condoms came up, used them a few times, and now we don’t.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody so far.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We may not move to dating but it is definitely great sex.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? His previous dating history might be awkward if we get more serious.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The casual encounter was very fun, so I may be more willing to jump into another later. I find it funny how my body and mind basically threw morals out the window when I was super horny.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Less looking down on casual hook ups.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great
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