What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 650
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She is 23, a mother of a 9-month-old. Not slim, due to the recent pregnancy, but still quite attractive. She has a nice face and beautiful breasts. We met on an online dating site. I made clear I just wanted sex, and so did she.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I suggested coming over the same night. She agreed. I got a bottle of wine and took a cab to her place. She had to open the house door so we met at the entrance. We said, “Hi” and then started kissing right away. I fondled with her boobs and honestly could have started fucking her right there (which when I told her later, she replied, she would have liked it). But since this was a public place we decided to go inside.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She got on her knees instantly and started sucking my cock real good. After some minutes I turned her around, put her over the kitchen table and started to fuck her. I asked her to open the bottle of wine while fucking her, which turned her extra on. I also fucked her anal a bit. She said she likes it but never had such a big one in her ass. It may have been true or maybe she wanted to compliment me. I was extra careful and didn’t fuck her too hard. Later we continued on the couch where she rode me and I fucked her in the doggy position until she orgasmed. Afterward, we ordered a pizza and drank wine. Then I left and we both said that we should do this again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We texted and shared some sexual fantasies we wanted to experience.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? None
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The spontaneity
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She was not really “beautiful”. Although young and nice, I wouldn’t approach her at a party or anything.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s important to me
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great
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