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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open-minded
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 38
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? A few

Sampling the Red Light District of Amsterdam

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last year

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My wife and I were visiting Amsterdam for a few days. We have been to sex clubs and had plans to spend time at one in the area, but I was also curious about the Red Light District. She offered to let me visit one of the prostitutes. I asked if she’d join me (us), but she wasn’t interested. I dropped my wife off at a nearby cafe and walked back to one of the windows that I had seen. The woman there had been engaged in the short time it took me to walk back from the cafe, so I found another woman who seemed attractive and knocked on her door. She was about 28 and came from Serbia; most RLD prostitutes are from Eastern Europe, Russia, or Ukraine. She was thin and curvy, with B-cup breasts.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She ushered me into the bed area and asked what I would like. I told her that I was interested in a blowjob but that I probably wouldn’t come, partly because I was hoping to save that for a few hours later (at the sex club), and also because I don’t find it that easy to come even if I’m in the mood. She collected the fee (50 euros for about 15 minutes), and told me to get undressed. Then she started right away, but not before putting a condom on my penis using her mouth, which was fairly sexy. The blowjob felt nicer than I’d have expected given the condom, which I think was thinner than any I’d used before.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She went down on me for about 10 minutes before suddenly hopping on top of me and fucking me; this felt great, and since she initiated it, I didn’t have to pay extra. I got the feeling that she really wanted me to come. I didn’t, but I told her that I had had a great time. I enjoyed holding her breasts while she went down on me. Later, while she fucked me, I rubbed her clit while she was on top. She told me afterwards that she never has an orgasm with her clients.

I very much liked her mouth – she was almost deep-throating me – and had excellent skills with both her mouth and her hands.

The next evening, my wife let me try out another RLD woman. This time, while she looked spectacular from outside her door, she was nowhere near as sexually talented or as caring. The blowjob felt pretty good (though occasionally a bit too ‘toothy’!) but also perfunctory. Although I would have liked to fuck her, she told me that it would cost extra. I enjoyed looking at and playing with her fake tits while she sucked me. She had a very sexy body.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The first night, I was very energized for more, and my wife and I had fun at the sex club. The second night, I told my wife that I wanted her to give me a proper blowjob to make up for the toothy one in the RLD, and she happily obliged. My wife is awesome!

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My wife enjoyed hearing both stories and laughed at the ‘toothy’ part. I told a friend, and he shared his similar experiences.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Playing with women half my age.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not coming with either of the prostitutes. And since my wife isn’t into anal, I should have found a prostitute who was. I also wish my wife were adventurous enough to have joined me, though I was glad that she liked hearing the stories.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me want to find a prostitute back in my hometown, but that’s gotten much more difficult lately thanks to the downfall of the Craigslist personals pages. I don’t have the money to be a sugar daddy. So I’m looking forward to going back to Amsterdam in the near future, or maybe Las Vegas. I really wish that prostitution were legal in the US (other than a few rare places).

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? These experiences also made me appreciate just how open-minded my wife is, though only to a point. She’s ok with me fucking prostitutes or women at a sex club but draws the line at having sex with, say, a former girlfriend.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve always been open to it, and I’ve always been a bit ‘out there’ with what I’m into. I wish I could get my wife to be even more open-minded, but I’m thrilled with her the way she is. On the open-minded scale, she’s a 9.5, and I’m happy with that!

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s always fun to read just before my wife and I have sex, and I wish there were more group sex stories, since that’s my biggest turn-on.

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