by Sophie

Gender: Female
Age: 25
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Germany
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Saturday Night Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 days ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Short fling, might lead to friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a very handsome guy, totally my type: dark hair and eyes, muscular, very fit – kind of a Greek god. He was 22, I was 25… actually, I’m not into younger guys so much but he was just hot so I didn’t really care.
I had met him 2 months before when I was clubbing with some friends and he caught my eye pretty fast, probably the hottest guy in the club that night… he was the one to take the first step and talk to me – his voice! Very soft but still manly. We spent the night talking and dancing and at some point, we just kissed. He was a very good kisser. That was actually the moment when I realized I just had to have this guy, no matter what. And he felt the same, telling me how hard he wanted to give it to me and stuff like that (we were totally drunk that night).
We had lost contact over the past 2 months. Most of the time, he messaged me first. I was really busy with my studies at that time and apart from that, I wanted him to do the hunting… on Facebook he is connected with so many girls, chances are he’s had them all without having to try too hard. Obviously, he’s a total player. I didn’t really mind (and I still don’t mind) but that made me play hard to get.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He asked me about a week ago whether I would like to come visit him on Saturday as his roommates were on vacation. I didn’t say yes straight ahead because I didn’t want him to be too sure too soon.
It was totally obvious what was about to happen and we both knew it, I was full of anticipation. When I got to his place, some of his friends (dudes only) were there, we were just hanging out, having a good time, drinking. No kissing, no holding hands, nothing. At some point, his friends left. We made out in the bathroom then moved to his room…

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started by kissing then laid down on the bed, I took off his clothes, kissed his neck and ears, his chest and then gave him a blow job, really enjoying the whole thing. At some point, he couldn’t hold back any longer and pulled me up, we were kissing like crazy, it was really intense. Then, he took off my clothes (well, ripped them off more likely), pushed me onto the bed and went down on me. 
We first did it in the missionary position with my legs on his shoulders. He was incredible. In between times, I went down on him again and again and so did he. When he lay on top of me again, I pushed him away and took control over (he had told me before that he would not let me do that as he wanted to be in control but when I just did what I wanted he seemed to really enjoy it). Afterwards and in between times, we cuddled which is a really important thing for me to do. Just brings you closer I guess. And I really love the alternation between soft and rough.
I don’t remember how many times we did it. Must have been around 5 or 6 times. Hardly slept more than 3 hours that night, he was very persevering (and we both were horny as fuck). We had early morning sex, too.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? We both did. Several times.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I’m on the pill but we used condoms as well to prevent STIs. We talked about STIs before and he told me his last HIV-test had been negative (so was mine). Well, that could have been just words.
When I asked him to use condoms he agreed although he said he hated them.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We were flirting all the time on Facebook and I was totally attracted to him.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol was involved but we were both still clear-thinking.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt really good about the whole experience and I still do. He was totally worth it although I don’t feel too good about him hanging out with all these girls, don’t really know why. Is that stupid? Don’t know. I’m not the jealous type at all and can’t stand guys acting too jealous. So…
Still, there are no feelings involved, just physical attraction and maybe growing feelings of friendship. I’m not sure what the whole thing is right now because we hardly know each other although we had pretty good conversations after sex and in the morning. We plan to meet again some time in the near future and he’s already told me he wanted us to be friends with benefits (he’s broken up with his cheating girlfriend a few months ago and doesn’t want anything new) and I guess I’m cool with that. Had such a “relationship” before and loved it (ended it after six months because feelings were involved).

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my best friend and to my sister. They both were excited and pleased for me. The thing is, they knew it before. When I told them I was about to go see him they knew exactly what was about to happen and they encouraged me to do it if that was what I wanted.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? A consensual hookup for both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, I don’t regret it, it was such a great experience.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about it was that we both had great sex and that I met a really nice, charming guy.
The worst thing is that from time to time I think about all the other girls he sees and wonder what kind of friendship they have (I guess I think too much).
It hasn’t changed my way of thinking about casual sex because I have made that experience before and I still think it can be absolutely great when the chemistry is right and as long as you remain honest. A few years ago, when I was in a long-term relationship, I thought differently. Today, I believe it is totally okay to have sex when you’re single, you shouldn’t have to go without when you actually want to do it.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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