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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States- Cincinnati Ohio
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Accountant
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? About 100 I think
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Scary One Night Stand

How long ago did this hookup happen? A year ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met “Danny” at a bar. He was older than me. He was in his early 40s I think. Brown hair with a little bit of grey. Pretty blue eyes. Average height and weight. He was drinking with his friends. But he did not seem even close to drunk.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was with a group of my friends having a girl’s night out. We were all having a good time, getting drinks from guys in the bar. A few of us either hung out at the bar area and some of us were out dancing. We were having a great time. I was at the bar and Danny came up and started chatting with me. I let him buy me a few drinks. After chatting some we found out we were both single. We had a good conversation and spent the night talking and drinking together. We were both pretty flirty with each other. He kept getting closer and I’d run my hand down his arm and would find ways to touch him in some way. He finally put his hand on my thigh and rubbed his hand up my thigh towards my pussy. When his hand reached my pussy he used his thumb to flick my clit some as he leaned in to kiss me. He was cute and I was drunk so he definitely turned me on. We made out in between having a conversation through the night. I touched his crotch through his jeans a couple of times and he felt hard to me. I really wanted him inside me and asked him if he wanted to hook up which he said yes. I told my friends where I was going and told them I’ll text them when I get home so they know I’m there.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We took an Uber back to his apartment. In the car, I’m sure the driver was getting pretty pissed because we kept kissing and I was rubbing his dick a lot. When we got to his place I went to the bathroom to freshen up and go to the bathroom. When I got back to the living room he was standing there and pulled me in to kiss him. Then he put his hands on my shoulder and pushed me downward and told me to suck his dick. I went to my knees and he started to undo his pants. I reached up and pulled out his cock which was pretty hard. I started to give him a blowjob. He grabbed my hair and started to thrust into my mouth after a few minutes. When I started gagging on him and pulled back some, he said he wanted my mouth really wet. He pushed back into my mouth and thrusted some more saying things like “suck my dick” and “do you like my cock in your mouth you slut?” I wasn’t sure how I felt about that but I let him because I figured it was just him getting into it. I tried to take his dick as he kept fucking my mouth harder and faster and I at one point felt sick to my stomach because my gag reflex was making me want to throw up. Finally, he pulled me into him and shot a load literally down my throat. I could feel it go down my throat. It was so much. I thought he emptied his entire ball sack into me. He held me into him and moaned and called me a “good slut.” He pulled out and helped me to my feet and kissed me.

He motioned me to his couch and offered to get me a drink which I accepted. I thought it would be water but he brought me a double shot glass of hard liquor. I drank it just to drink something to get the dick taste out of my mouth. We had a bit of small talk and I told him I was gonna call an uber to go home. He told me to wait because he wanted to taste my pussy. He leaned over me and kissed me. I kissed him back and immediately felt horny again. He started to touch my tits and put his hand up my shirt to grab my tits. He started kissing me on my neck and sucking on my neck. I told him to not do it because I didn’t want a hickey. He laughed and started again. He sat up and pulled me up and told me to take off my shirt and bra. When I did he pushed me back down and started rubbing my tits and sucking on them HARD. It actually felt uncomfortable and not good at all. I told him it hurt and he ignored me. He stopped, sat up and started to take off my pants and panties. After he did he stood up and got undressed. He got back on the couch and spread open my legs and started eating my pussy. He pushed his fingers into me and started fingering me really hard. Omg, it hurt. He also started biting on my clit and my pussy lips which also hurt. I tried to move away but he held my hips down and kept going. I told him he was hurting me and he told me to “shut the fuck up and enjoy it.” At that point, I started to move around to sit up because I was wanting to leave. I didn’t want to do it anymore.

I sat up with him in between my legs and told him I wanted to leave. He moved more into me and physically pushed me back down and put his cock inside me. He put his weight into me and told me he was doing what I wanted. “You wanted to fuck so we’re gonna fuck.” He had me positioned weirdly between the arm of the couch and him and I couldn’t get out. My upper half was into the couch and my lower half was raised upwards. He kept fucking me hard. He had one hand wrapped in my hair and one on my tits squeezing my nipple hard. He kept telling me to “take his cock” and called me a whore, bitch, and slut a few times. I told him to stop because he was hurting me. I was at this point not wet at all. He ignored me. He leaned back up and slowed his pace at one point just to punch my tits and omg it hurt. He also kept squeezing my clit. I wanted to be done. I lay there and let him fuck me so we could be done faster. Finally, he said he was close. I asked him not to cum inside me and he ignored me. Finally, he pushed far into me and grabbed my tits and came inside me. He laid on me and didn’t move for a few minutes. Finally, he moved to get off me and he got up and went into the bathroom. I used this time to get dressed and locate my things. When he got out of the bathroom, he went into his bedroom and closed the door. I walked out and called an uber to go home.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After he went into his bedroom and I left his place. As soon as I got home, I tried to clean out my pussy as good as I could and told my friends I was home. I went to bed but couldn’t sleep. I was happy that I wasn’t going to have to see him anymore. The next day I immediately bought Plan B.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Plan B / Emergency contraception

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Completely Wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I didn’t tell anyone about it at first but eventually told a friend of mine, who was disgusted by it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? I went into it completely drunk. And I wanted to stop but felt as if I couldn’t stop it given my size compared to him and my drunkenness. Also, I regret not being cautious about protection.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? None really.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? All of it.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I now never have sex if I’m drunk and if there’s no protection.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’m really upset with myself that I didn’t push for protection because I wasn’t on the pill or anything and I had no idea if he had STDs.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex, but I know to be more cautious. I’ll continue to have casual sex only if I’m not drinking and if I feel safe.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it.

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