What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Portland, OR
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Retail Associate
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was pretty short with bleached blonde hair. She had big gauges in her ears and a lot of tattoos. She was pretty cute overall with small perky tits and a nice ass. She was also a heroin addict so she was a lot skinnier than she would have been otherwise.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were both psych majors and were in a couple classes together. I started flirting with her a bit just getting to know her. She was super reluctant to hang out at first but I kept on and eventually we got together to look over class notes. She had a weird relationship with this abusive ex so I kind of stepped in and was able to break that up. She was pretty grateful to get out of that. Anyways over time the attraction became mutual and at a certain point we talked about whether we would hook up. I said listen I’m into you and I’m not going to just be friends. I want to have sex. I realize this was pretty self centered but that’s just how it went down.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had a lot of hookups but this one in particular we had talked about having sex in a somewhat public place. We decided on the study room in the library. We got a key and totally felt like the lady knew we were up to something. Anyway we went into this little study room which was flanked by another so it didn’t feel that private at all. Plus there were students right outside the room studying. I took off my pants and she gave me head. In the past she liked me to cum on her face but this time to be tidy I came in her mouth. I put my pants back on and she was really turned on by the event. She goes “You couldn’t go again could you?” kind of sarcastically. It had been maybe five minutes and I said sure. This time she gave me head and I jerked off in her mouth to finish off.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterward we left. We might have hung out a bit to make it seem like we’d actually studied but I don’t remember. My expectations were to keep hooking up, which we did–mainly at her place, but one other time we used the music rooms in school, which was more private but we actually had someone knock on the door while my dick was in her mouth because there was no music coming from the room. We said “Occupied” and whoever it was left us alone.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? At the time I didn’t have many close friends so I didn’t tell many people. Over time I’ve told a few.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting an awesome blowjob on campus while everyone else in the library was stressing over homework.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Like I said she was using heroin, which I found out late. She always wanted to have sex without a condom so I felt like I dodge a bullet by using protection when we fucked. I never knew she was shooting up. I knew she was taking pills–barbs and opiates–which made her extremely moody.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yeah definitely. I was totally sexually attracted to her but we had almost zero emotional stability or trust.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Thank God I didn’t get hep c from her. She was pretty clean and probably didn’t share needles, but you never know. I don’t think she had hep c either. She probably would have told me if she did. But she could of had it and not known. Anyways, I’m very grateful I have no STIs.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex can be healthy and unhealthy, just like monogamous relationships. I would like to see more of a change back to the sixties where “free love” was encouraged in certain circles. It seems like you have to use the internet to find it, which I don’t like doing. I would much rather meet women in real life who are open to open relationships.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome place to share stories and read stories. It’s helped me to realize how many of my relationships have just been casual hookups.
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