What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Management
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Fairly innocent. 3 prior partners. Only having sex with each twice.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Scottish Lad & Naive 30 Something Lass
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months, still thinking about it.
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a Scottish Lad in Ireland celebrating his 21st birthday. He was tall and lanky, about 6 foot. He had blonde hair, very blue eyes, and nice high cheekbones. He was holding onto his boyish charms.
I was on my own in Ireland and had decided to go on a pub crawl to feel more comfortable going out to the bars. I hadn’t been on a pub crawl since I was 21 myself. Looking around the group of youngsters, I felt old and frumpy. I decided to approach the older man, around 50 years old, in the group. It’s always been easier for me to talk to my elders than my peers or younger people. Turns out he was there with his two sons celebrating the youngest’s 21st birthday. While I chatted with his father about Ireland and Scotland he would enter and exit the conversation. I thought he was just being a kind son until we got to the last bar.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At the last bar, I encouraged him to join the “hen/bachelorette” party. That it would be a great way to celebrate his 21st. He looked directly into my eyes and said, “that’s not where I’ll end my night.” I felt a little odd at the comment but did not grasp his intention.
His brother was kicked out of the bar for causing trouble and his father left to take care of him. He circled back and made a light comment of getting me to himself. I was again confused. I mentioned that I could almost be his mother. He looked me in the eye and said, “that doesn’t change anything, including where I’ll sleep tonight.” I decided I’d pay my tab and sneak out the next time he used the restroom or got a drink. I had never had a one-night stand and wasn’t going to be a 21st birthday port to dock in.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I got outside, and was headed back to my AirBNB, but got confused looking for the correct road. I asked an older man for directions to the road I needed. He pointed me in the right direction, and then looked over my shoulder. I turned around and the damn sexy 21-year-old was standing there. He told the other guy he was escorting me home. I realized right then, that I was absolutely fucking this young hot assertive Scottish Lad with the sexy fucking accent. In my head, I heard a girlfriend shouting fuck the youngin hard and fast. Despite this, I was very nervous. My experience has been limited and I’ve always really known the guy well. I chatted endlessly about nothing the whole mile back to my place.
I led him up to my room and asked him to be quiet given my host was next door. When we got to the room, he immediately grabbed me by the back of my hair tipping my head back to look at him. That one move and I felt myself go instantly wet. He pulled off my shirt and bra, kissing me with full tongue while his hand still held tightly to my hair. He shoved his hand down my panties. He chuckled at my wetness and asked if I was glad he found me. I said nothing but dropped the rest of my clothes. I frantically pulled at his shirt, his belt, his pants, but hesitated there. He left his boxers on. He slid down my body kissing each part along the way until his mouth covered my clit while his fingers probed my opening. He slid his tongue down and he let out a loud groan. He shushed me and I giggled like a school girl. I said I needed more and pulled his remaining garment off, and then saw the biggest cock I’d ever seen. Again my experience has been limited, but I think he’d be big compared to most. He chuckled at me again as I made eye contact.
He then threw my legs over his shoulders and fucked me harder than I knew possible. His dick was physically harder than anything that had been there before. I could feel every bit of him. I felt stuffed; every little movement felt amazing. I giggled uncontrollably throughout. With a strong arm, he flipped me over. He smacked my “bubble butt” and I giggled. So he did it some more, pulled my hair, and boar down on me. My moans escaped despite trying to bite the pillow. After he came, I sat there waiting for him to leave, but he fell asleep instead. I lay next to him smelling our sex. Feeling tender in new places, I couldn’t sleep. I kept tossing and turning. After a little internal dialogue, I decided I could just lie there, ask him to leave, or do it again. I knew my girlfriend would say go for round 2. I leaned over and stroked the marvelous length of him, as he and it woke up. Once we made eye contact, I rolled over on top of him. Rubbing my wetness on the length of him multiple times, before he asked what I wanted him to do. I told him to flip me over, pull my hair, and smack my ass some more. With 21-year-old enthusiasm, he did exactly that, and it was even better than the first time.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? When we both knew that was it, I walked him out. I took a bath and spent my last day in Ireland watching movies in the room filled with our scents. I thought I’d feel guilty or shame, but I just felt damn impressed by him and his confidence, but also impressed with myself for finally being adventurous in bed. I felt giddy from having enjoyed sex more that night than I had in any of my prior experiences.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Therapist and she was very supportive. Medical doctor for testing also supportive. Close friends all very supportive.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Learning that I liked the assertiveness. The hair pulling, ass smacking, the being flipped this way and that.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? There was no opportunity for round 3!
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I’m much more open to discussing sex. I’ve been much more eager and willing to explore.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I feel sad it took me so long to enjoy sex. I hate how shaming and guilt-ridden the topic is (at least in the USA).
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Less judgment on women.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I can’t wait to read and learn more. I’d like more female written stories.
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