What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 22
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 5

A Scottish Taste by Accident

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Anne was in her mid 30s. Probably not the kind of person that makes your head turn, but one of those faces, the more I look at, the more I get into it. These are my favourite kinds of faces, so I think she was beautiful. Just pursuing her PhD, so pretty smart as well and very good to talk to on different topics, politics, music, artsy stuff, non sense… She didn’t wear clothes complimenting her body, but as it turned out later, very nice figure. Runners legs, still some healthy meat on and nice B or C cups with a lot freckles (yeah, she was scottish 🙂

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was in Scotland for business. Work stuff ended on a wednesday so I took two days off and stayed in Edinburgh until Sunday. I’m very much into live music so first thing I did after arriving at my hostel was checking out live gigs. I found a pretty interesting concert at Sneaky Pete’s. When I got there,I was told it’s sold out. I asked the woman at the entrance if she had any other recommendations. While she was thinking, Anne arrived. She catched the conversation and said, she had a spare ticket since her friend canceled. I asked how much it was, she said it was alright, so I insisted on inviting her on a beer. We took turns in buying drinks. At some point she quite the beer, since she had to work the next day. After the concert we proceeded to another bar and played some pool and talked a lot (what we didn’t really do before). It was getting pretty late, so she needed to go home and I didn’t make any moves but insisted on getting her number and said, we should meet again friday or saturday.
We met friday and did some barhopping around Edinburghs west town. We ended up in a pub and I was hitting on her pretty hard by then. She gave in, we made out in the pub, on the way to her place an in her kitchen. We made ourselves another gin tonic but didn’t drink it at all and proceeded to her bedroom.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were both pretty drunk but chilled at the same time. We were lying fully clothed on her bed making out. I suggested to make ourselves ready for bed so we can sleep right away after we’d finished “our business” that was obvious to happen. So getting ready for bed, me drinking a lot of water to sober up a bit. Didn’t work too well. We continued to make out, stripped each other down slowly. I went down on her, which I guess was alright. She was not too responsive. In retrospective I think she needed it a bit harder, but I was not capable of that anymore. Anyways, I was hard, put on a condom and began to fuck her missionary. Her bed was pretty bouncy and didn’t meet my groove, so asked to proceed on the floor, which was much better. Still, I was pretty drunk, did some doggy on her, but there was no way I was gonna come in a condom that night. She gave me head afterwards, but yeah,… damn it. Pretty sure she was not that satisfied as well. But since I liked her, I liked spending time with her, so it was nice.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We woke up, both having a huge hungover. talked a bit, cuddled a bit. I was aiming for some morning sex, but she wasn’t in. She had to sort out some things on Saturday noon so I left and I kissed her goodbye. That was it 🙂

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend. He asked me how these things actually happen to me.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Spending time with a beautiful woman and feeling a connection.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Alcohol

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Her roommate saw me naked when I was going to have a pee in the morning.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Feel free and relax.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Distracts me from work.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!