by Dr. R
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 53
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Scientist
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Swinger
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Scottsdale House Party
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? One was my wife of 31 years, F. My wife is beautiful and vivacious with piercing blue eyes. An absolutely, jaw-droping, great ass and small tits with incredible nipples. Adult life and having children has been hard on her and she is overweight. Being a swinger has been an incredible boost to her sexual self confidence. F and I had become swingers about a year before and we have gradually gotten the hang of things and generally having a great time.
We were hosted by G and local MD, upper 30’s, average build Asian man. We met online via a swingers website and chatted via text for several days. His girlfriend S was blond, busty and about 50. We were also joined by J and T an older (both in their early 60’s) very experienced swinger couple. J was trim and fit, very intelligent. T was a relatively tiny woman, cute and very fit too both had greying brown hair. We met them at G’s house.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were visiting the area for a few days, so we thought some swinging fun would be great. We put an ad for dates on the swinger site we are members of. We had several replies including G. He was a single male, but asked if his girlfriend S could join. We thought this sounded great. He continued to text F and then said a couple who were his friends could also join and make it a party. We agreed and set up the time and place for the party and a meetup-drink. G lived in Scottsdale and we chose a restaurant nearby for drinks.
We met around 6 at the restaurant bar for a drink and meeting. F was a bit disappointed with G, but S was blond and very attractive. We had a brief and highly sexual discussion. S over-shared, and G under-shared, but I was hot to trot for S, who asked me the wonderful question, “well are you going to fuck me tonight?”. Of course and absolutely and a few other tricks too. I embraced and kissed S, while F did the same with G.
We hopped in our cars for a 15 minute drive into the hills, ending up at a very nice, very large house fitting a single MD. As we pulled up, J and T also pulled up behind us. They got out of the car and immediately introduced themselves, J holding F and giving a kiss, and T kissing me. We went inside removed our shoes, Then things got exciting.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once inside wine was opened and all of us got together on the couch. T made a beeline for me, and we curled up on the couch and started to make out, kissing and feeling each other up. I was also rubbing S, but T was far more aggressive. J had made the move on F and was getting her hot and ready to fuck.
After just a few minutes everyone got naked, and we headed to two of the bedrooms. T and I got one to ourselves, the the other four went to another room (I didn’t find out the details til later). Once on the bed I immediately buried my face between T’s legs and started to devour her pussy. She was talkative, which i like, trimmed, but not bare or shaved. Once I had 10 minutes of her pussy and licked & fingered her to at least one orgasm plus gotten her very wet she got as much of my cock into her mouth as possible and sucked me to a wonderfully hard state. T was eager to get me inside her. We slipped a condom on and started to fuck missionary. T was enthusiastic about everything declaring that my cock filled her up perfectly and any bigger would be worse. Honestly she is the oldest and smallest woman I’ve ever fucked. After some doggy style fucking, some of the other party goers came to announce the arrival of pizza and chicken wings.
It was time for round two after some chow. All of us came back out to the couch to drink wine and eat pizza. It gave me the chance to talk with J (who had been fucking my wife F in the other room). He was a wonderfully interesting guy and very accomplished professional. When I spoke to F later she told me what happened in the other room. Her and J had a good time fucking and sucking, but G was really acting odd and generally disrupted the flow of things. She got a super strange vibe from him. He wouldn’t let her suck him or turn the lights on at all. I didn’t find out this til the drive home after, but I would learn for my self soon enough.
After dinner we all headed out to the hot tub. The six of us got in, and I turned my attention to S. We started to kiss, and I played with her very nice breasts, and fingered her pussy. She started cumming almost immediately. After a couple of minutes she floated to the top of the water and started to eat her pussy, every time I touched her clit with my tongue she writhed and came. I’ve never seen a woman cum so easily, and when I slipped two fingers into her, she only became more. Despite cumming all the time, she seemed quite detached. We left the tub and S said she wanted to get high. She smoked a bit of weed and offered it to me, which I declined (I can’t because of my job).
After she was feeling good we got into bed, and I started to eat her pussy again, until I got hard and started to fuck her. She was moaning, and cumming and then all of a sudden she squirted all over showering me all the way up my chest (I was standing) and it poured all over her body. Then G took my place. I moved my cock to her mouth. G was shouting orders and telling me to face fuck S. It all seem labored, S was totally detached, and G was frankly a total boner killer (F and J both agreed with this assessment, G enters a room and boners die). I had enough of this BS and left.
I ended up going to the other bedroom to join J, T and F who were chatting. F and J had round two to avoid G’s boner killing vibe. After a nice conversation with J and T we left for the night.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was satisfying and frustrating all at once. We were happy to have met J and T really enjoying their company. We were going to help them get on our site since they swung via Craigslist prior. F went to their house while I was at work a couple days later, and fucked J then worked on their couple’s profile. We hope they visit us or we visit them when we are visiting our respective areas.
G gave us a wonderful house to meet, but really created huge problems in play. S was very hot and sexy, but she was so detached and selfish in bed that it wasn’t much fun. Making her cum seemed almost like child’s play. For the first time in my life I had sex with three women in a single day having fucked F earlier in our hotel. So that was a bucket list thing. It was a weird and memorable experience, happy to have had it despite the strange shit that went down.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device), Sterilization, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We speak to some of our swinger friends about things. It was a memorable and unique experience, at least for us.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was a very memorable experience. It was a wild evening meeting some nice people and fucking them. We met some odd people and fucked one of them too, she squirted massively, which was super impressive and also memorable.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? G and S were both pretty damaged people. If they had been more functional, the evening would have turned out to be awesome.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It goes into the memory of things to look for and the sorts of people you meeting swinging. It was a great learning experience and emblematic of the sort of experience that I can deal with far better than a year ago.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It made F a bit more cautious about men since G largely misrepresented himself. He ended up being far from what he said he was. S was beautiful, maybe one of the best looking women I’ve ever been with. She was so distant and detached during sex that it was ruined. I’d rather be with a plain woman who is enthusiastic and into sex and me.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has been a good addition to my life since and I wish it were more openly accepted
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Fantastic
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