What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? mid 40’s
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Business
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Nature as a religion
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? one

Second Attempt

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This was another attempt-my wife and I were drinking in a local restaurant. The wife was around early 40’s, 5’3, very fair-luscious body and a smile to kill. She had very sensitive skin. The third guy was average to look at-street smart-and asked the right questions

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Once we finished the drinks, he offered to treat us in another place. He asked my wife to get into his car while I drove in mine alone. Now, my wife readily agreed- till some place we did that- then I parked my car and started to drive while they were making out at the back.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We did go to a restaurant for more drinks and more flirting- the guy asks me once they get into the car to go and check out the rooms where we can spend some time-in the meanwhile, the guy was all over her- but then I had to come back and start driving. They were making out and then we had to leave.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Only if it had happened with the third guy

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No One

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The drive

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing happened

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Its a fun thing to do

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Couple in India should take a mature approach to include men whom their wives would want to go to bed with.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sex is important and is a need- if it’s consensual without moral baggage then people ought to learn to have fun.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Amazing platform to share.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!