What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Recovering sex addict
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 100+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Too many
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How long ago did this hookup happen? A year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? J was a guy I met on Grindr. He was really cute and it was really late and I was very horny. He was dark skinned Latino, short hair, sexy eyes and a great 7” uncut cock.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He asked if he could come over. He was right down the road. I didn’t want to since everyone was home. But they were asleep. I never let men over when anyone else is home. But something drew me to him and I felt a real urge to have him. So I invited him over at around 1 in the morning. He was standing outside and I wouldn’t let him in. I was so nervous. Finally, I relented and snuck him into the bedroom.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started kissing. I don’t usually kiss guys. I just don’t usually like it. But something about him made me desire his lips. Then I undressed him and started to suck his juicy black cock. I sucked back and forth for a bit and he fucked my throat, making me gag. Then lifted me up to kiss him some more. Then he demanded I take my clothes off. So I did. I asked if he had a condom and he did. I watched him put it on. All the while we were trying to be very quiet. And I was nervous because that bed isn’t quiet so I was worried someone would wake up. Luckily we stayed quiet enough as he started to fuck me and continued to get harder and deeper inside me. I could feel his balls slapping on me. He thrust hard and deep but also slow and sensual. It was the best fucking I’d ever had. It took my breath away a few times. But it didn’t hurt too much. I was very tight. I always am. Finally he pulled out and I removed the condom. I started sucking again. I could taste the condom but it didn’t bother me too much. I just wanted his cum. Finally I felt him getting harder and felt his cock pulsing in my mouth until he blew a huge load into my throat. He was laying on his back though, so a lot of it fell onto his stomach. Not one to let cum go to waste, I promptly licked it all up and swallowed as much as I could. He left and I jerked off and passed out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He left and we stayed in touch. We became very close and started to develop feelings for each other. He was the first man to show that I could have romantic feelings for a man besides just sexual. I wish I could’ve gotten to know him better because we really enoyed each other’s company. We hooked up several more times. But that first time still stands out as the best.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Making an emotional connection with a man.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Getting a little heart broken.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. It’s made me desire more of an emotional connection with men.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s been a long time since I’ve hooked up with anyone. Man or woman. But the desire is still there. I think monogamy is an unnecessary amoressure bestowed by society that contributes to so much hurt and drama. But I also think there’s something beautiful about committing to one person and having them in your life forever. Doesn’t mean people shouldn’t also be able to fool around as they wish. Idk. I don’t think the two should be mutually exclusive.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s fantastic.
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