What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Arizona USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Self Employed
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Promiscuous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Several
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Seduced By My Neighbor
How long ago did this hookup happen? 29 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a widowed neighbor in his mid 60s. Myself and my husband were friends with him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At my house. He would come over for morning coffee once in a while when my husband was at work. He came early one morning and woke me. I answered the door in my nighty. I let him in and said I was going to go get my robe. He told me he preferred that I left my robe off. I served him coffee and sat and chatted with him in a short thin nighty with panties on. My breasts and nipples were visible through the fabric and my vagina was outlined in my panties. He made several comments on how stunning I was.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I poured him a second cup of coffee and he put his hand on my back and then my ass. I stood there somewhat frozen and he felt me up progressively. He pulled me on to his lap, lifted my nighty and played with my breasts. He put his hand in my panties and fondled and then fingered me. I thought about stopping him but it felt too good. I felt his hard on through his shorts under my ass. He stood me up and told me to take off my nighty and panties. He took down his shorts and sat back in the chair and told me to suck his cock. I sucked him for a while and then he told me to lay face down on the kitchen table and spread my legs. He fucked me for a long time from behind. It felt amazing. I was on my third orgasm and he exploded in me. We began doing this a couple times a week for a year until we moved away.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt a little guilty but he began coming over a couple times a week for coffee. I would be nude and we would have sex. Eventually it moved to the couch where he would teach me how to deep throat, anal, bondage. I became his slut and would do whatever he wanted. he was always very respectful but pushed my sexual boundaries to the limit.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Submission / Relinquishing power, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I learned a lot of sexual techniques and acts I had never done.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cheating on my husband
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. Since that time I have engaged in sex with other men frequently for years.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It opened new doors for me sexually.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has it’s positives and negatives. I have come to believe that married women should have the freedom to explore their sexuality.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I’m new here.
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