What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Melbourne
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Fluid, flexible
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Unknown
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
See you in 5 years
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him at a bar when I was out with a friend having drinks. He was tall, handsome and wearing a nice sports jacket. He also had a bald shaved head which was new for me, and to this day he is still the only bald guy I’ve ever had sex with. We started talking after we both saw a fight break out between two strangers at the bar. Security had pulled us both aside to ask for details of the confrontation, as we had been quite close to it and he had pulled me out of the way when the two dudes started fighting. Before that, I hadn’t even noticed him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We sat and chatted at the bar for a bit and I lost track of my friend I had come with and he had lost track of the group he came along with as well. I don’t exactly remember who suggested it but one of us suggested we get out of there to hook up. We walked back to my house, which was only a 5 or so minute walk away. Along the walk, we talked about our backgrounds and how nice it was to meet someone genuinely sex positive. As we got to my door, we both admitted we didn’t remember each other’s names. We laughed and reintroduced ourselves and I invited him inside.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went straight to my room and started tearing each others clothing off. He went down on me and did an excellent job. He clearly loved eating pussy, and knew what he was doing. I’ve never been one to come during oral, but this time I came very very close. After that, he put on a condom and started to fuck me. He had a big cock but it wasn’t a monster. After a few minutes of him fucking me while standing with me on the edge of the bed, he picked me up and laid down so I was on top. I rode him until we both came hard. Afterward, we both laid there for a moment, catching our breath and cuddling a bit.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Almost as soon as we finished I realized I had ghosted on my friend from the bar and felt terrible. It was actually fairly early in the night (maybe 11 or 11:30), so we got up and started to get dressed. He started to apologize that he couldn’t stay since he had to find the friends he came with, but before he could finish I told him I actually had to go back out and find my friend I had so rudely abandoned as well. We laughed about how neither of us had ever picked someone up, had sex, and then gone back out to the bar afterwards. As we were walking towards the door, both of our phones started ringing. We talked on the steps for a few minutes, and he told me was originally from Melbourne but lived in Bejing now on a 5 year contract for work. I told him how I was backpacker on a temporary visa. He quite sadly said “Well then, we’ll probably never see each other again.” I appreciated something about his tone sounding a little sad. Then he told me that we should meet at the same bar again in exactly 5 years, as that would be when he was moving back to Melbourne and it would be nice to meet again and recreate the night since it had been so much fun. We laughed and shook on it, kissed and went separate directions. We’ve never seen each other again, but then again it’s only been about 4 years.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a couple of friends, they were shocked that it all just happened and fell into place so quickly and easily. They, as far as I know, don’t partake much in casual sex so they’re reactions felt slightly disapproving but they didn’t outright say that.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex itself was great but what was almost better was how positive it was from beginning to end. No judgments or weirdness and we both had a good laugh about some of the more silly aspects of it.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing, although I do wish I could remember his name.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It definitely cemented the idea that casual, semi anonymous sex can be fun and great.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Although I’m almost positive we will never ever see each other again, sometimes I think about how cool it would be if we did run back into (and recognize) each other.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think personally it’s great, but I can understand how it doesn’t work for some people. I do wish there was less judgment associated with it.
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