What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 52
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Albuquerque
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Scientist
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Cautiously Adventurous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11 So Far
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
A Seminar from Dr. H
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 Months
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My wife F of 30 years and Dr. H, a guy we met on Craigslist. My wife is beautiful and vivacious with piercing blue eyes. An absolutely, jaw-drooping, great ass and small tits with incredible nipples. Adult life and having children has been hard on her and she is overweight and low in sexual self-confidence. She was a stunning young woman when I met her, a walking wet dream.
Dr. H is a distinguished looking older gentleman, balding with salt and pepper hair. In reasonable physical condition and generally unremarkable.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began with an ad on Craigslist that F and I posted looking for a MFM threesome. We also posted an ad for a FMF threesome, but as you probably know such an ad will precipitate an avalanche of replies and dick pics.
F had posted ads on Craigslist about a year earlier. She had a friend who had used CL to find her lover and gave her the inspiration. F’s father had just died and the combination of grief and fear pushed her to seek sex with other men. She had been a very innocent virgin when we met, and I had been her one and only lover. I had a couple of other women before. At the time we had been completely monogamous for 30 years. Her CL ads produced a huge response. Ultimately she met J who was the second man to fuck her. J gave her exactly what she wanted, rough almost forced sex and a nice big cock. Eventually I found out and things took about six months to be worked out. In the process we tried a very unsuccessful and uncomfortable threesome with a guy from CL. It was a bad, but not horrible, experience.
A few things came out as a result of the discovery of her infidelity. She was only interested in sex with other men, not in any relationships – and the idea of sex with other men turned me on a lot. I also wanted to fuck other women. She ended up trying pay penance to me by buying me sex. We had a modestly satisfying call girl in Vegas, and an absolutely phenomenal fuck with a prostitute in Germany. At the time of the hookup we were thinking about opening our marriage. The hookup with Dr. H was the first step.
Dr. H replied and didn’t follow instructions. He mentioned being a scientist like me, so we answered with a very pithy joke. It turns out that he worked at the same two places that I had worked. We had an instant connection. We exchanged very long emails and eventually phone numbers. He was very into BDSM and a dom. F is submissive and things moved fast. They had several phone calls that made F very wet and horny. The night before the hookup I joined a call in our bedroom where Dr. H proceeded to script my domination. F was spanked and masturbated on command, but ordered not to orgasm. She sucked my cock at his command. He demanded that she only call us Sir or Dr. H or Dr. R during the encounter.
The next morning we met at a restaurant near Dr. H’s house. F was very nervous beforehand, but was dressed to the nines in a short dress and her fuck me pumps. His wife was away and he would host us if we felt comfortable with playing. He told us that his wife had serious issues and that their marriage was sexless. We met over coffee and talked for about an hour. It was general chit-chat and get-to-know-you talk. Then F went to the rest room to pee and took her panties off. Dr. H had been fondling her and nuzzling for most of the hour. He came back and was delighted with her bare pussy. We agreed to leave and took the five minute drive to his house for the main event.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to Dr. H’s house and went to the bedroom. Dr H and shared a last little bit of shop talk and we got to the business at hand.
F was sandwiched between us and we undressed her together. She was getting off on being kissed and fondled by two men at once. We also spanked her and got her into the right mindset to be dominated by two men. After she was properly submissive and obedient. We got onto the bed and she starting sucking my cock while Dr. H ate her pussy. Dr. H made it very clear that F was not to cum until she had specifically been allowed to by both of us. Then we switched positions, F started to suck Dr. H’s cock while I fucked her from behind. At this point a problem emerged. Dr. H could not get hard. F is an amazing cocksucker and her skill is only surpassed by her enthusiasm. After a bit we took a break and Dr. H played with her teasing her almost to the point of orgasm. She came a little bit and she was promptly punished. I took her over her my knee and spanked her hard.
Afterward, we got back on the bed and F tried to coax a hard on from Dr. H. Meanwhile I fucked her ass hard and fast. Once her ass was very well fucked, Dr H produced some toys – a butt plug and some anal beads. He proceeded to give a course in anal pleasure. I had gone to the bathroom to get my cock all cleaned up, and while Dr H anally pleasured F, she sucked my cock deep and hard. I fucked her mouth roughly just like she likes it. My cock is very thick and she has a very hard time deep throating me. At the end of the anal play Dr. H enjoyed the fruits of his labor playing with her gaping asshole. We got some water and talked and relaxed getting our energy back for round three.
F was itching to cum. She had just the one small orgasm that she had been punished for. She had been spanked til her ass was sore, and fucked by me. Dr. H has teased her pussy and asshole mercilessly. He started to work her over again, this time focusing on her G-spot. After a few minutes F was begging Dr, H to let her cum. He kept at it. Finally she was almost in tears, and he gave consent for her to cum. When she came it was incredible, in 30 years I’d never seen her cum so hard or so continuously. She had orgasm after orgasm and her juice just flowed out of her. Dr. H kept at it and milked her G spot. Just when we thought it was over, she came again. I don’t know how long it went on, but she might have had a hundred orgasms. The wet spot was massive. She was exhausted.
By the time it was over we had been playing for two and a half hours. F and I were a bit shell shocked.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Right after the hookup F and I went home and fucked. We were almost in shock over how intense the whole thing was. The number of times F came was almost uncountable. It was an incredible experience. We continued to have threesomes with having one more MFM and one FMF from the ads. We also had our first couples’ swap, but it was not very good at all. We tried to meet Dr. H again, and it seemed like he was going to meet us along with a female submissive friend, but it fell through. Dr. H’s wife had a complete breakdown and his life was too complicated to include this.
We also learned that we are only into lite BDSM, F is only mildly submissive and neither of us get off on the level domination that Dr. H likes.
Since the experience with Dr. H, F always orgasms by squirting with me. I know how to stimulate her so that a gushing, squirting orgasm is almost guaranteed. Before this sort of orgasm was hit or miss, and happened a lot, but wasn’t a sure thing. Now it is almost like magic. We think Dr. H showed me how to do it and gave F confidence that it was there. Now she will cum between 10 and 20 times whenever we fuck (and we fuck a lot!).
Finally someone suggested trying SLS instead. We signed up and never looked back, it is so much better than CL. We continue to have threesomes and swap with couples. It works great for now and we are still experimenting.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Power / Dominance, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We’ve talked about it with some of the people we swing with. F has spoken to a couple of friends, but not in detail.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? F learned to cum like never before, and my knowledge and confidence in the female anatomy is much greater.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Dr. H wasn’t able to get an erection, and we haven’t seen him since.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it was the perfect start to having a open relationship and swinging.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It is still one of the best sexual experiences of both of our lives.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It made me much more comfortable with it. I think shame for women is a very negative aspect of society. The double standard actually hurts men because it keeps more women from enjoying sex for sex’s sake. The result is a smaller population of women who are available for casual sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s fantastic.
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