What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 55
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Education
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? None
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? about 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was my wife. He, we did not know. He was in town on business from California.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was in his hotel room and arranged ahead of time. She was hesitant as she had always been against this sort of thing. We had gone for a drink ahead of time. When I told her after we were headed for the hotel she said she was hoping I had forgotten.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met him at his hotel. He had a table with oils etc. He started by giving her a Swedish massage. I was off on the side reading looking up every once and awhile. Once, while she was on her stomach he was massaging her thigh and ass and obviously slid his hand under her and brought it back out sliding it through her pussy. Eventually, her legs started to twitch and slid into a rolling orgasm. I went over and started to fuck her. I bent over and whispered to her to take him in her mouth. She enthusiatically grabbed his cock and started to suck him. After I came I watched him come in her mouth.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We went home. We felt good the next day. Later we did this again where she got a massage then we took turns getting sucked by her and fucking her. She really enjoyed it.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? My wife’s sexual horizons expanded.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? None
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? no
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? no comment
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? interesting
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