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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United states
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Personal development specialist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Wiccan / Pagan
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

7 day sex experience

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a guy, brown hair, tall. Mid 20’s. I didn’t know him very long. I met him online. I thought he was pretty cool. We were gonna go out on a date, but it lead to me spending a week at his house. I was really stupid back then and he had me thinking I should commit to him and live with him even though I had just met him that day. So that part is sketchy.. and I thank God I’m smarter now, but it wasn’t a bad experience till how things ended, lol. The sex was good though and a great expirence despite the messy drama of the day I went home.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went on our first date, went out to eat. Then we went back to his house. We were just really bored and inexperienced. There wasn’t a lot of emotion of feeling with things, least of all me since I was going through a lot of emotional trauma back then and felt pretty numb inside and I had also been suffering a lot of sexual disassociation from being sexually abused as a child. However I didn’t know about my numbness and dysfunction at the time. Which lead in the steps of quantity of sex over quality.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Despite all my numbness and problems, I didn’t have a bad time at all. I wasn’t as present in the experience as I’d liked to have been which lead to us having sex basically all the time the entire week, since none of us felt very satisfied and we were just really bored and had a lot of free time.

Our main problem was that he couldn’t keep it hard, which such lead to a lot of frustration, but we kept trying, and trying, lol. It wasn’t as bad as people may think. It just gave us other options since normal intercourse was just very difficult. There was a lot of foreplay, a lot of touching. There was Oral from both of us, vaginal, anal, we did a lot of exploration and different positions. We had a lot of time and 7 whole days, and doing it many many times per day just lead to a lot of experiences.

I feel really happy for the sexual experience itself, I learned a lot, experienced a lot and I felt much better about myself as a person. I was really happy because I went from someone feeling more ignorant about sex, to a person who had a lot of sex and experiences of sex in a 7 day time period. I wasn’t happy about the drama with the person himself at the last day when I had to go home, I’m still angry and hurt. But the sex part was great. We even took a shower together and had a lot of fun there. It was a GREAT experience! It was just so fun and freeing. It was great how we’d walk around the house naked and just be really free and open. and this is with a guy I just had met.

He was a really nice guy generally speaking. It was a rather pleasant experience despite not knowing him. Years later I realize how stupid it was for me to be so far away from home, no car with a strange guy, but I’m glad I got lucky and I’m ok. I don’t recommend it to anyone, mostly because I didn’t have a car and wasn’t able to leave, and I didn’t have enough smarts to understand the situation. But I’m glad for the experience and I’m glad I wasn’t in any danger.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Well it was a 7 day sexual escapade. So it was one great day after another. Things weren’t so good on how things ended on the 7th day. It really came down to his mom being super awkward and angry and ruining everything. It was a really shitting ending and I’m still hurt, humiliated and angry. There wasn’t really any closure on how it all went to shit honestly. But I don’t think it’s his fault but I’m still angry.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Boredom, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fact there was so much sexual freedom, that it lasted a week, that we had sex all day long and were very comfortable with each other.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It’s hard to answer if I got emotionally hurt. I’m not hurt over the sex, I’m hurt over how things ended. It’s so fucked up man. but for the sex itself, I’m really happy. I just feel so disrespected and hurt.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes it does. It’s made me more open to it. It’s broadened my understanding of sex and how freeing and amazing it can be.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’m happy for the sex, unhappy for how I was made to leave.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m happy for casual sex. It has helped me explore myself and feel more free,

I wish sex was talked about more in general and that we can get rid of the stigma and taboo. I want all people to be free.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s wonderful. I came here from your TED talk video.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!