What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Sex After 2 years
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was taller than me and 21 years old. He had a nice smile, jawline, and lips. He clearly works out, but it wasn’t so important to me.
We met the night before for the first time with his friend. Initially, I met his friend on tinder, but I treated him more like a friend. We used to play games on the internet, and this time when I joined his group chat, the other guy was there. He made a good impression; he was funny and nice.
It’s been 2 years since my breakup with my ex and I haven’t had sex since. It’s made me really shy about intimacy and I didn’t know how to act on a “date” anymore.
Well anyways, we went with him and his friend in a huge garden. Then we all went to a fun bar, it was my first time going to a bar. I drank 2 Piña Coladas in a short time. I really loved them, they were so delicious but I wasn’t used to drinking alcohol, so I was kind of silly and was laughing for nothing. I wasn’t shy anymore, but he was kind of concerned about me and told me to drink water and asked me several times if I was okay. We talked a bit about the fact that it was only a month since he got out of a 4-year relationship. I told him to take time to heal.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The day after, he suggested we go do an activity like going to a movie or something, but I wasn’t feeling so good. I wanted to throw up but I wanted to see him so I told him to come to my place, but I told him “You know…it’s not what you think, it’s just to relax.”
He arrived shortly after, I made tea and we played some video games until he started kissing my face with his soft and lovely lips. I was so shy, I didn’t feel capable of doing this step, I completely forgot how to be like that with someone anymore. I told him and he was so gentle. He leaned in and kissed my lips. It was so warm and felt so good. As we kept kissing, I got more comfortable, more sensual, more alive.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were on my sofa, and he lay me down, I wanted him but was so shy about him seeing my body. I was wearing a long skirt that got up and he was rubbing my pussy and I got so turned on I let him take off my shirt and panties. Then he took off his pants and I saw his dick; it was huge and I was surprised. He then leaned in and tried to put it inside of me but, after two years without sex, my vagina was extremely tight and was having difficulty opening up. When he finally got in, I told him to go very deep so it can strech. I screamed as my vagina wasn’t used to that size and he was going in so hard and so fast. It just felt so good and I just needed that so much because I was so horny for 2 years. Then, I went on top of him and, it was painful but felt so good. I don’t know how else to explain it, I was thirtsy. Then I got on my knees and he did me hard. It wasn’t perfect sex because we still didnt know what the other person liked or didn’t like about sex. He kept calling me cute names and told me he liked it and that I felt good, it was nice. After everything, we showered together, and I still let him look at my body, I didn’t care. We looked at each other, and we kept kissing and smiling and hugging and soaping. Then we sat back on the sofa and he put his head on my chest and I was caressing his head and hair, and we were kissing gently and at ease. It was just so pleasant. He was holding me tight. We listened to a bit of music and we laughed and danced a bit. He was supposed to go, but he stayed a bit longer. I then kissed him good bye and hugged him once again and he left. Maybe we’re gonna see each other again. I would like to.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was satisfied and happy it finally happened even if it wasn’t serious. It felt good. It helped us to be way more comfortable and to connect faster I think.
I just don’t know exactly if I would want a serious relationship with him. I just know I wanna be close and intimate with him., and have sex with him again that’s for sure.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more confident
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? One of my friends. He was happy I finally did it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The intimacy. The fact that I opened myself after all this time, the self confidence that it taught me, and the physical benefits.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? When he put his hand on my throat, but I told him no and he immediately stopped. It was also a bit fast, not enough foreplay, and it was a bit too rough for me, but I don’t care, and was talking a bit too much lol but it was cute. It was something new for me and it was really fine.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I used to have a negative opinion about it, and used to be scared to be judged for it. But It doesn’t have anything to do with others. It’s personal and as long as the two feels good with it, there’s nothing wrong with that.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I am willing to try casual sex again, but with protection this time.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a good idea and gave me the opportunity to talk about my experience thoroughly which is good for people who doesn’t have anyone to talk to.
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