What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 58
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 70+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Sex After Carnavale
How long ago did this hookup happen? 13 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Dee is tall, ~5’ 10”, she had a toned yoga body & has fantastic natural DD’s. Best set of natural tits I’ve ever seen. We’d known each other for close to 10 yrs. We were good friends but had never so much as kissed before this night.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I asked her if she was interested in going to the local Carnavale event. She agreed it would be fun. There were many women there that were in bright skimpy costumes, many topless. Diane & I were both dressed though I took my T-shirt off after a while. I was in great shape & had well toned pecs, shoulders, & arms. I could tell she liked my body. Later in the evening, she took off her top but kept her black lacy bra on. She looked really hot & her DD’s stood out.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were dancing throughout the night and late in the evening she was facing away from and was up against my crotch. All of a sudden she turned and started kissing me. We both got really into it. We made out for what seemed like hours, like time had stood still. All of a sudden someone tapped me on the shoulder and said we needed to leave. We had gotten so into it neither of us noticed the event was over, the lights were on in the facility, and we were the only ones there other than cleaning crew. We laughed when we realized this and left.
In the car we continued to make out. Things were getting really hot. I had her bra off and started sucking on those beautiful firm DD’s. She was moaning and I felt her unbutton my pants and pulled my dick out, making me squirm with pleasure. I whispered in her ear to go down on me which she did with gusto. She was pretty good at it. After a while she stopped and we drove off to go back to my house since we left her car there. In my driveway we again made out and she once more sucked on my dick. We both felt a little off that it had gotten sexual between us so we stopped and didn’t go inside to fuck. I went inside, she left to go home. I got into bed and masturbated thinking about her great body and how good she had sucked on my dick.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Things did get a little off between us. I think we both wanted to possibly do it again & this time finish but we never did. I got into a relationship & married. Dee & I lost touch after I got married & had a kid.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? The friendship suffered due to it.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Even though we never dated, we were attracted to each other. We were great friends, We felt at ease in the moment & the experience was somewhat surreal but highly sensual.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we didn’t fuck. I know it would have been great!
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, not really. I have had many casual encounters. This one was special because of my genuine care for Dee.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Only that I will always remember this encounter.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is great as long as both sides accept it is casual & there are no expectations after.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Really like reading about others experiences.
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