What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 55
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA, Atlanta
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Attorney
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 63
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Sex Club

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2011

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My first visit to a sex club. Arrived at a seedy warehouse district in town. Stood in line at lunchtime during the work week with other professionally dressed men and women. Walked into what felt like a parallel universe. I am a very liberal and open-minded guy but this scene even shocked me. People running around naked, having sex everywhere. A porn star girl in the main room, putting on a show by being fucked and sucking over 50 guys (I counted). Never was in a room that smelled of sex as much as that one did. Women were tied up to crosses, husbands asking if I wanted to fuck their wives. The entire club looked like Sodom and Gomorrah. And frankly, it was a bit overwhelming.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The owner had his girlfriend, a smoking hot 23 year old hottie, escort me around the club as I was the VIP that day. After an hour of watching wild group sex, he asked me if I wanted her to give me a blowjob. She was hot and I was horny so I said yes. What I did not know is she was going to put on a show with me and others would be watching. It was very hard to perform with 40 people standing very close to us while my cock was in her mouth. And at the same time she was blowing me, another guy was going down on her. It was pretty wild.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I played with her tits, sucked her nipples, she sucked my cock. Another guy ate her pussy at the same time. At least 40 people watched us, standing very close to us. no one else was allowed to touch her except me and the guy going down on her. She was ok, I’ve had better blowjobs. I liked her as a person and she was smoking hot.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Never saw her again. The blowjob was not that great and performing live sex in front of a crowd was much more difficult than I thought it would be. I stayed at the sex club for another hour, watched others having sex and played witha few women, mostly just touching them and played with a few tits. Got naked and stayed naked for a while. Then got dressed and went back to the office.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react?  A few friends.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being selected as the only guy in a sex club of hundreds of men and women to get blown by the 23 year old hottie girlfriend of the sex club’s owner in front of a large enthusiastic crowd is very good for your ego.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I had trouble staying hard due to all the people watching me get blown in a sex club.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Just expanded my sexual horizons a bit.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I learned it is very hard to perform sexually in front of a large crowd. And that 23 year old hotties don’t necessarily give great head.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex. As long as you can separate love and lust, you are fine.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome!

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