What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Jakarta
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Marketing
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 19

Sex with a handsome stranger from Grindr

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is well-tanned, around 6’1″ height with lean body and perfectly built arms. I came across his Grindr profile and started the conversation and looking forward to hookup with him

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It all started when I saw his profile pic on Grindr. Totally the type of guy I would date and older than me (he was 30). I shot him a message and it didn’t take long for him to reply. We chatted for around 30 minutes including exchanging pictures, and he sent me a picture of his fully erected dick which is above average and that made me hard. The conversation got hotter and I invited him over to my apartment since my sister was out of town. He agreed to come right after he finished his workout at the gym.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He called me saying that he arrived. I was a little bit afraid that the guy I invited is a fake or will look nothing like I saw on the profile. I went downstairs and I saw the same guy I talked to on Grindr sitting on the sofa. He smiled at me. We went up to my apartment and he wanted to smoke a cigarette. We went out to my patio and smoke a few cigarettes while chatting. He took off his jacket and what a sight for me! He wore a sleeveless tee showcasing his built arms. I totally blushed and I bet he saw it.

We went back to my room and he started to undress. I was quite surprised he didn’t wear any undies since it’s not a common thing to do in my country. I undressed myself and asked him to join me in my bed. We started kissing, my tongue met his and played inside. I softly bit his lower lips and he seemed to like it. We kissed for a few minutes while I rubbed his dick, and then we flipped position and I started to lick his nipples and bite them. I could see that he was enjoying it and couldn’t wait to fuck me. I teased him while sliding his hard rock dick over my ass cheeks. He aggressively put me into doggy position, oiled up my ass with lube and fingered me. I trembled as he entered his second finger. It felt so good and I moaned louder. Turned out that made him really horny.

He took a condom, slid it on, and suddenly I felt his dick touching my hole as I tried to open up. He slowly put it in and I could feel my ass stretching. He fucked me at a good pace until I begged him to fuck me harder. We fucked for an hour, tried several positions until he told me he was close. He asked me where I want him to cum. I told him to cum inside me since he’s wearing condom. He pounded me real hard until he came inside. He pulled it off and could see the condom was filled with his cum. He kissed me while I jerked off trying to reach orgasm. A few minutes later I came all over my stomach and we both smiled, satisfied with the great sex we had. We cleaned ourselves up in the shower and I helped him to clean up while playing with his soft yet big dick. Not long after that he told me that he needs to go back cause it’s pretty late. We said goodbye and up til now we never talked again. But it was definitely the most memorable hookup I’ve ever had.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was simply a one night stand and I didn’t hope anything more than that.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? Because I cheated on my boyfriend and I didn’t tell him

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I hooked up with a guy that physically attractive

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I believe that everyone deserves a casual sex once or twice. It’s simply for fun and stress-releasing.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love to read others’ stories. I think it’s somewhat arousing

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