What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? America
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? NEET
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 31
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 3
Sex in a nightclub!
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last Saturday
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Older guy, maybe mid 30s. Probably the oldest guy I’ve been with but I didn’t ask his age. We met at a club that I went to last Saturday to blow some steam. I’ve been traveling lately and exploring the nightlife of cities, and this was apparently a popular though not particularly high end nightclub in the city. Despite being easter weekend the club was quite full, but this guy was quite good looking and we caught each other’s eyes and he bought me a drink and we danced and talked. We maybe kissed once but his wife or girlfriend or whatever came up and pulled him away. I later saw her literally smother herself all over him on one of the couches.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Anyway, while his wife/gf was busy with her friends, I went back to this guy and gave him my hotel, my number and my room. About half an hour later while I was dancing with another guy, my hookup came to me and asked to talk. We went to the more private lounge which was slightly less crowded and had a bunch of people making out. But instead of finding a couch he took me towards the bathroom. He kissed me and told me he really wanted me, now. The way he kissed me and whispered to me was hot enough to convince me.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I followed him into the bathroom, which wasn’t super crowded but there were a few guys there. Luckily there was an open stall and we went inside. It wasn’t a very dirty bathroom, but it’s easily the trashiest place I’ve had sex. Anyway, once we locked the stall, I kneeled down and pulled down his pants and took his bulging penis into my mouth. I was kneeling down on my heels (trying not to touch the floor) so I wasn’t in a super comfortable position, and tried my best to try to finish him quickly, urgently moving my mouth to go as deep as I could and then back. After a minute or so, my hookup suddenly pulled me up and then pulled up my dress. I had no idea that he expected to have sex (other than just a BJ) in this small stall but I decided to go with it, and he sat on the toilet and then pulled me on top, moved my thong to my knees and then entered. I was on top, so I tried to best to finish him quickly since I was worried about his wife or security because we were making a lot of noise between his grunts, my moans and the toilet clanking from our going back and forth. After another minute my hookup changed positions again, with me leaning over the toilet and him pounding away at me from behind. I did my best to press back against his thrusts to make him come quicker, but he still took some time. At one point someone even knocked on the door but my hookup told him to fuck off. After like 6 or 7 minutes or something he finally finished inside me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He asked for my panties which I gave to him. Then we left back to the party. I actually just hurried off home so I wouldn’t have to confront his wife. He called me again on Sunday but I was busy with Church the whole day so I couldn’t meet up, and since then I’ve left the city so it’s unlikely I’ll ever meet him again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, MDMA, ecstasy, molly
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. It’s a super trashy thing I’ll probably keep to myself lmao.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fact that his wife or girlfriend was right outside. Also the fact that we were doing such an intimate thing in such a public and small place. We also didn’t use a condom and I’m not on the pill so it was actually super risky. It felt sinful.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was kinda uncomfortable obviously since we didn’t have much space. I was also kind of paranoid that someone would come in and get us in trouble but nothing happened. We were also in a rush.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s another positive and super unique experience I had on the road. Never thought I’d be having sex in such a place but I definitely don’t regret it. Sex is basically about two people giving pleasure to each other and it doesn’t have to be super romantic or in a very intimate setting.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m quite supportive of casual sex as it allows people to have nice experiences and lots of fun before marriage which is important for maturity and living a free, no regrets lifestyle. One thing I’d really like to change is the way religion treats sex. I mean I understand the merits of sex within marriage, but I think some experimentation before marriage only helps strengthen your marriage later, which is what I’ve been telling my boyfriend.
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