by Sassy singleton

What’s your gender? Woman
What continent do you live on? Europe

Sex is Simple, Fucking is just Fun

How long ago did this hookup happen? Very recently

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ve had enough of trying to date and find a relationship. I’ve dated several guys within the last month, and it always seemed to go wrong! And every time it always left me puzzled, but still wanting sex…
My previous thoughts were always that I needed to be in a relationship before having sex. I don’t want to be a slut, right?
But one day, not long after another less-than-exciting date, I decided I was going to go about things differently now. I wanted sex, I couldn’t stop thinking about it, using my vibrator every single night…
Maybe I could just find a guy who wanted sex too? That would be so simple, I would get what I wanted, no expectations, just fun, and surely it would be easy to find that. Most of the guys seemed to be after that anyway.
So I met him online. And he started chatting/flirting with me right away – it was clear he was up for sex straight away. And he looked hot. It was a different approach for me, and probably something I would have frowned upon before! But I started to think, fuck the rules, my body wants this, I’m gonna honour that

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met for a drink. And I was definitely up for it, as long as he was attractive and wanted it to. And he was. He was good looking, well dressed, smelt good, and the date was running smoothly. We started talking about some of our sexual experiences quite soon into the conversation, and I knew it was likely to go down the route I wanted.
After a few drinks, I suggested we head back in the general direction where we both lived. Suddenly I found myself inviting him back to mine. As soon as we went inside and sat down, he started kissing me all over. He said after a few mins, ‘are you turned on’, and I replied yes, and he lifted me up and took me to the bedroom.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was dripping wet by the time we got our clothes off. His cock was a perfect size, not too big, not small at all, and quite wide so it gave me a lot of feeling. He fucked me softly first, he made me moan and told me how good my pussy felt. We changed positions a few times, missionary, doggy style, and me fucking him while I was on top. That last one felt really good and allowed me to be in control whilst he was playing with my clit.
Then he said ‘do you want me to cum’ to which I replied yes, and he fucked me hard for a few mins missionary style. Then he came and said it was amazing.
He wanted to make me come. He asked me to play with myself, this was good for me and turned him on so much too. Then he grabbed me and thrust his fingers deep into my pussy, with quick hard strokes, I suddenly came with no warning. It was so hot, and I was moaning.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt empowered and satisfied. And happy about my decision. I still fancied him, not sure how long it was going to go on for, but whatever happens I can look back on it and say I had fun (and he will too, I hope)

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have told no one! I think that my family and some of my friends would judge me. I have recently decided to not let them have a say on my sex/love life – I listen to their opinions too much and ignore my own

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The soreness afterwards!

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes I think it has. But it is early days, and I am still forming my opinions. But I think it is teaching me to act on my own desires/needs more, rather than what other people think I should want/need

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would like to see casual sex talked about more freely, especially when it comes to women. I still think that there is a stigma around women having sex when they are not in a relationship. I think it is important for women to OWN their own sexuality, and to honour it.
Don’t allow your yourself to be a victim of anything, whether that is of a guy putting pressure on you, or society telling you that you cannot have casual sex. As long as you are safe and respect yourself and the person involved.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It seems great so far

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