by Jane

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? the US of A
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Waitress
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11? ish?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? first one!

Sex & National Parks

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s you’re all-American white boy. Average height, and build, blue eyes, dirty blondish hair with a strange bowlcut that somehow worked for him. We were one of those on-again-off-again couples all through college. this was somewhere in the middle of our relationship. The bummer was that I felt much more strongly for him than he did for me, and I wasn’t self-aware enough to finish the damn thing and walk away.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It must’ve been summer, because we were back in his hometown and actually happy to see each other, which was rare. We had gotten stoned and were walking through the woods because there’s fuck-all else to do. We’d smoked a bowl and then hiked through this park with 1,000 steps, til we were overlooking the lake and miles of trees. We sat down on a fallen log, and then he kissed me.

i think he may have planned it very hesitantly, because it felt spontaneous but also sort of like when you dare someone to do something that they already secretly wanted to do.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? the whole scene is weirdly adorable when i look back on it. We both pulled our pants down to our ankles and I was lying on my back on this fallen tree stump which was very compromising. There are much less conspicuous ways to have sex in the woods but there were. We were both trying to not to laugh while simultaneously trying to be serious and sexy. I remember there was a lot of foreplay; he fingered me for a long time, and wouldn’t let me go down on him because he wanted to focus on me. it was sort of tender. By the time he finally thrusted into me, we were both really close to coming. i was on birth control at the time so I came and then he came inside me. It was short and sweet. It gets sweeter with the retelling.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I remember making lots and lots of “do you think that deer was watching us” -type jokes, and trying to act very breezy and casual. Really though I was feeling incredulous, and very cool, and I couldn’t WAIT to tell my girl friends. It was an on-again upswing for the two of us, and at the time i remember feeling like I was brimming over with what i though was love but really probably was pride at being the “cool rebel girl” who has sex in the woods and doesn’t care.

I couldn’t tell you how he felt because I could never tell you what he felt.

I suppose we’re friends now, but I dunno. I really hate him sometimes and I really miss him sometimes, and then other times I forget he exists.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I had three best girlfriends at the time, one whom I lived with. The other two lived next door. We reveled in telling each other bizarre sex stories. I loved and still love the intimacy of dissecting friends’ love lives.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? the right after feeling of “partner-in-crime” closeness on top of the lovey-dovey boyfriend-girlfriend crap.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? no bad things, really.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? nah. it was more of a let’s see what sort of trouble we can get into sort of situation.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? have sex in the woods! and don’t date guitarists.

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