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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 40s
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA – upstate New York
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Health Care
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Mature escort
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Sex with the Stripper (I was the stripper)

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a guest at a party – a guy had a cabin upstate New York and had his friends over for a party including a stripper – which was me. The guy I had sex with was one of the guests. He was a muscular outdoor type – somewhat younger than I am.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was getting towards the end of my stripper act, he and I had been dancing during most of my act. I was naked except for my very high heel shoes. He had pretty much been feeling me up from behind the entire act.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I started with a hand job, moved to a covered blowjob, and ended up fucking the guy in several positions. He removed the condom last minute and I stroked him until he came on my chest.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? My husband came into the room and told me it was getting late and it was time to go.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, He paid me several hundred dollars.

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My husband and I always talk about my ‘gigs’ on the way home.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I enjoy having sex with a man of my choice at the end of a stripper party. My husband usually sets up the room with my CD player, dims the lights, and makes sure there are multiple condoms and several flavors of lube.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It has brought my husband and I closer than ever. He is a ‘tough guy’ type and he has learned not to be jealous or possessive as a result of my escorting.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s a great way for a woman to make some extra cash and have sex with a variety of men.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great idea.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!