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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Server at a bar
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

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How long ago did this hookup happen? A day ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I am a server at a bar. It was happy hour so the bar was packed and I was going around making sure everyone was doing alright and checking if they wanted to buy another drink. Since I am only 20 and it was only my fourth day on the job, I don’t know a whole lot about alcohol. He was with his friend and said they wanted tequila. I asked if they wanted it on the rocks. I was very confused and they were giving me shit. I brought them their tequila shots and he started flirting with me. He said he would have to check my ID before he gave me his number so he knew I was over 18 (I look very young). I brought them more drinks throughout the night and I ended up getting his number before he left.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I texted him when I got off work. He asked if I wanted to come over for a few drinks. I had nothing better to do so I said yes. I don’t normally hang out with people so I was excited. We did a few shots and started kissing.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went down to his room and started fooling around. He went down on me and I went down on him. We 69’d for a little bit. I mostly rode him and sometimes he would flip me over into missionary. Since we were a little drunk, we fell off the bed and onto the floor. We kept having sex on the floor and eventually got back into bed. We switched into doggy style and he accidentally shoved it into my asshole. He didn’t finish because he was too drunk and a guy has never made me cum before so I wasn’t disappointed that he didn’t. We ended up just talking and eventually fell asleep

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I didn’t expect to hook up with him, but I wasn’t upset that we did. We have been talking ever since and have plans for a date today. We both want the same things out of life and have a lot of things in common so I’m hoping for something good

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device), Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Prescription sedatives (Valium, Xanax, Diazepam, Quaaludes, Phenobarbital)

How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t told anyone and don’t think I will.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I had a lot of fun and feel like we connected really well.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He didn’t finish

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m really into casual sex because all partners are different and I like that I get to have a different experience each time.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!