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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 46
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Company Director
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Sex With An Ex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew M from high school where we dated for around three months. She was more confident than me at the time and initiated things I had never tried before. She was a sexy blonde and our time together was very intense. One night I hid in her wardrobe until her mum went to bed and then I climbed into her bunk bed and we had the most amazing sex all night. We never used condoms and I remember the wetness of it all.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After moving around and finally settling back near to my hometown, I discovered that she lives very close through a brief discussion on Facebook. We agreed to meet up and go out for a meal (the same place we went to many years earlier). After dinner, I drove her home and she told me her husband was away, working or something.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She invited me in and after chatting and a drink she took me upstairs to her bed. The shyness was gone and replaced with confidence. We 69’ed for ages and then started to have unprotected sex. It felt amazing and it was just how I remember it with her. She turned over and lay on her front with her legs spread, I remember my cock slid into her ass with ease because she was so wet. We had never tried anal before but in a very short space of time, I could feel her cumming which led to me release deep inside her. Afterwards, we kissed for a while and I got dressed to head home

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? A strange feeling afterward, a mix of excitement and guilt. We met up for sex once more but circumstances made it difficult to keep it going.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? Guilt and because it opened up the past. We would never have been right for each other but the sex was good

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The buzz of the passionate sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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