What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? NC
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Sex With Boyfriend’s Hot Co-Worker
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Mike is over 6ft tall, dark tan, black hair, brown eyes, huge arms and works with my NOW ex-boyfriend.
I’m a 5 ft 3 inch brunette with green eyes & wear a 32A bra & 112 lbs. I was on the dance team in college, a vegetarian, and went to the gym often and constantly being told I look like I’m in my early 20s.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I first met Mike at last year’s Holiday Party. He started out making flirty comments about my dress & toned legs in front of my boyfriend. I politely thanked him for the compliments. I’m short, and even with 8 inch heels I was looking directly into his chest. I could tell my boyfriend didn’t like him talking to me and with a sarcastic tone asked, “Where’s your date?” Mike stared at me like he was mentally undressing me and said, “I come alone to these events but I always go home with a prize.” He kissed my hand and left. My boyfriend fumed but remained quiet. Mike made a point later to stop by our table and say ‘bye’. He was with a girl and patted my boyfriend on the back, looked at me and said, “Looks like you’re taking home first place but I’ve got Miss runner-up.” The girl said, “Oh! Thank you.” For some reason, Mike’s compliments made me horny and I could feel my panties getting wet. On the way home, my boyfriend vented about how he didn’t like Mike. Once we got home, my boyfriend got to enjoy the benefits of Mikes comments.
I’d been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we’ve lived together for 3. I had begun having doubts about our relationship because he told me he never wanted to get married. Through a friend, I found out he was cheating on me. I confronted him and things got nasty. The lease is in my name & he didn’t have anywhere to go so he slept on the couch. I was already on the point of breaking up and he got nervous I might kick him out. He started bringing me flowers and taking me to dinner at high end restaurants. I kept my guard up and we were not having sex and he was afraid to even ask.
Two weeks had passed and he finally asked, “What can I do for total forgiveness so things can be the way they were? I’ll agree to anything.” I said, “Anything?” He nodded yes. I said, “It’s only fair I have sex with someone then we can call it even.” He started backtracking. My face was red and he could tell I was ready to end it and send him packing. He said, “Ok. That’s sounds fair.” I said, “Deal. Give Mike my number.” He freaked out, “Please anyone but Mike you know I don’t care for him.” I said, “I’m ready to move on. Give Mike my number or you can pack your stuff and we’ll say our goodbyes right now.” He agreed but asked, “What am I supposed do? Walk up and say, Hey, my girlfriend, that I LIVE WITH, wants to have sex with you. Here’s her number PLEASE give her a call?” I gave him an evil smile and said, “Sounds good to me.” For the next 9 days, we didn’t talk, text, message or eat together. We were like regular roommates that just live together. I was hoping he was making secret plans to move out.
On Friday evening, he came home around 5pm. At 5:30pm, I got a message from Mike. He said, “Hey, I hear you are in need of a hook-up.” We sexted for a few then he asked me to come to his place. I asked him to give me an hour to freshen up and asked if I could plan on spending the night. I got a thumbs up emoji.
I was working on make-up and hair when my boyfriend asked, “Going out?” I said, “Yes, Mike texted me.” He said, “I finally had the talk with him before I left work today.” I said, “Thanks” and kept curling my hair.
I found a black short semi transparent mini dance dress I wore at a college performance 8 years prior. It was designed to be worn with a leotard and tights but not tonight. I put on a black lace bra and black thongs. I slipped into the dress and looked in the mirror. It still fit perfect just like the last time I wore it. I put on a pair of heels, packed a small bag, grabbed my boyfriend’s six pack of Coronas from the fridge and went out the door. His was in shock and speechless as I left.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I arrived at Mike’s and we wasted no time having sex. I started out giving him oral. He was much larger and thicker than what I’m normally with. We had sex countless times all night and he gave me multiple orgasms. He’s so muscular, the best position and the one we did the longest was him standing with my arms around his neck and my legs wrapped around him.
The next morning, I couldn’t resist but to have sex with him one more time. I told him this was a one-time thing. He understood but told me to keep his number in my phone if I want to come back for more. I put on a t-shirt and shorts then left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I arrived home around 10am with a refreshed feeling but my vagina was sore from being stretched. My boyfriend was still asleep on the couch. He woke up to asked how things went and I said, “Better than expected”. I informed him it was over and I’d gave him a week to move out.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, Revenge / Getting even
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Obviously, my boyfriend at the time knew but I didn’t pass on any details.
My cousin. She thought I my planning was perfect.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having casual sex with a hot guy.
Mike promised me he would go to work and brag to everyone that my boyfriend arranged for him to have sex with his girlfriend. Then he drank his beer afterward.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? A delivery guy brought a pizza that was anonymously paid for. It was addressed to “Please be quiet!”
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Before I started dating my ex-boyfriend, I had casual sex often. After a few years of dating my ex-boyfriend, things became boring and we didn’t have sex often. I was ready to dump him when he told me he never wanted to get married. The first time I met Mike I thought he was someone I could casually hook-up with but I didn’t know how to contact him. My ex-boyfriend’s infidelity gave me the perfect opportunity to have casual sex with Mike.
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I had to loan my ex-boyfriend money for a deposit on a new place just to get him out.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? People should be more open to casual sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s nice to share a previous experience. I also enjoy reading other experiences.
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