What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? Indian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Entrepreneur
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Namrata was a 39-year-old widowed lady. She was husky and a bit on the heavier side. I met her on an online hook-up site. We chatted on the site for about a week just to confirm. After Skyping, we decided to meet. We discussed the terms and conditions in advance. She was very easy to talk to, but a bit shy in the beginning. She hadn’t met anyone since her partner’s death.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met at her home when her son was away to school. I initiated it while we were chatting online. Initially, she was shy & hesitant but she agreed to meet.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We did a lot of foreplay, kissing, oral & vaginal. We had two hot sessions that day. She was very skilled at satisfying a man. The only downside was that she always wanted to be submissive and would not take the lead. After sex, she rested her head on my chest and we spoke a lot about our lives and kissed a lot.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We continued chatting on phone and messaging sexy stuff on whatsapp. Felt really a boost of self confidence as it was my first casual sex with a woman (outside marriage) in my life.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? Initially was shy and scared but later agreed
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? None
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because I felt I had cheated on my wife. But my sex life was sucking with my wife and wanted something new and adventurous.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Great sex, Willing partner with good skills.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I am more confident now and I have hooked up with 4 ladies and 1 couple.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We both became good friends and we still hook up with each other once in a while.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is fun and everyone should experiment with it once in their life just to increase their self worth.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very good initiative
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