What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Dancer
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 22
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
Sex with Issac
How long ago did this hookup happen? February this year
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Issac had been a guy I’d loved for an intense period of time. He’s got a piercing dark eyes, he’s part burmese beautiful freckles on his face, and is incredibly sexy when he leaves stubble grown for a couple of days. I met him two years ago, tinder date. We ended up dating shortly after, in was an intense love. Constant sex which was at times full of romance and love and then sometimes he’d really give it to me rough. I loved it, I loved the way he could tease me and make me incredibly wet. I’ve not met someone yet who was able to satisfy me in bed as much as he could. We broke up because he cheated on me and went on to have another unsuccessful relationship. Thats why I was being contacted. I felt excited at the time, he’s messaged me on and off for months asking for a hook up. I found it funny, that I could dangle the sex in front of him. I’d tease him about seeing me and then take back our plans. Drove him mad. But at the time I was intensely seeing someone else.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The someone else being one of his good friends. His friend Jay I’d seen for a couple of months he was cool and I enjoyed the time I shared with him. But what Isaac and I had was something else, it was fueled by anger, attraction, passion and love. Part of me had left it so long because I knew he wasn’t being sincere and i didn’t want to get involved with him.
But Jay eventually told him he’d been seeing me. Isaac went mad and called me up, saying he couldn’t believe it. That I could do what I wanted and that he didn’t care. But I knew he did…so after a text he sent me. I said ‘You’re only jealous because you still want to fuck me’. He replied with ‘maybe’ and then we began sexting all night. I sent him a photo in my lingerie that made him go mad. He planned for me to come round his and then went back on it as he said friends were coming back to his. He was drinking. So I made he come crawling to me and invited him round to mine. He showed up to my amazement at 3 am on my front doorstep, hadn’t seen this guy for a year. He stood there kind of awkwardly and then I took him upstairs into my room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He came into my room commented on my flat. Said I looked well and different. He took his coat off and his shoes and laid on my bed. I went over and kissed him, and we made out intensely. He mumbled that maybe we shouldn’t do this but then put his hands down my panties. Rubbing my clit. He rose took my pants off and took his trousers off and then began to finger my wet dripping pussy. I touched his dick, in his boxers. Whenever he turned hard, he gave me this irresistible look. He kissed my neck and bit my ear as he hit my clit with his hand, it makes me so turned on and no ones ever been able to do it as well as he did. He made this humming moan that would make me go wild that I took his hand off me and pull his pants down in front of me. Grabbed hold of his dick and started sucking. Looking up into his eyes whilst I’d go up and down and lick the tip. He took me from above and it wasn’t rough, but gentle, he’d roll his hips round in circles making me cry out in pleasure. He made me cum almost instantly and which made him cum inside my pussy. It was good sex but we had shared better together previously. We talked briefly and then he then fell asleep. We talked but it felt quite cold although we were snuggled up together.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning we had sex again, similar style. I wanted him to stay and I was hoping we’d have more intense sex in the morning. I was hoping we’d go out for breakfast somewhere but he abruptly left saying he had business to before he was flying to America the following week.
I later found out he was still with his girlfriend but is apparently single atm. Apart of me still loves him, and I’d love the chance to explore just hooking up with him. But I don’t think it will happen because both of our previous emotions keep getting too caught up in it. We can’t have sex and not feel something.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Cocaine
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend, my brother, and Jay. My best friend said it was probably the closure I needed, my bro said I was stupid to let him back in my life and Jay was like well that’s Issac for you what were you expecting?
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I regret hooking up when we did because I later found out he wasn’t single. I think he would have relaxed more if he had of been
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Actually made me look at everything we had together, and I feel more at peace that things didn’t work out.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That he just walked out the next morning…we haven’t spoken since. But also I sensed he hadn’t had good sex for a while, he didn’t last long.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It changed the way I saw my ex and that in fact, it gave closure in my life that although we had great sex in our relationship previously, that I had changed.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? He made me satisfied at the time so I can’t complain.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I believe casual sex is a great way for you to explore your sexuality without being judged. In some ways, it’s very discrete. I definitely have explored and had fun so far.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s useful to see other people’s stories.
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