What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Indonesia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Architect
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Muslim
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Sex With the Banker

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last week

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her in a bank. She’s 8 years younger than me. We had a good banter conversation back and forth. I could tell by her eyes that she wanted me, so I confidently asked her number and she gave it to me. We exchanged social media account so I know better about her. She has a husband and I also have a wife. We started texting and sexting each other. She is not satisfied with her sexual relationship with her husband. I also have no sex with my wife for 4 years. But we have a happy family life with our family. We just have the same sex problem with our husband and wife. So we agreed our relationship just only for sex without emotionally attaching.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Two months after I met her, we planned to book a room in a hotel to satisfy our sexual desire.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had a romantic sex about 6 hours in a hotel. I felt very happy. We did missionary, 69, doggy style, cowgirl and body surfing. I came 4 times, and she came 4 times too. I rarely met a girl with a high sexual desire and I was lucky to meet her.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I feel very energetic the next day. Our sex conversation is still going until now.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about me, To cheer myself up

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? Because we have a strong religion. We are afraid of sin. But we are still doing it. Someday I hope I can have a great sexual relationship with my wife or I hope my wife give me a permission to have a second wife (polygamy) to satisfy my sexual desire. Because of I’m afraid of sin, someday I just want to have sex with my wife and legal.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She is very beautiful and every man wants her and she can give a pleasure in bed. I feel very happy about that.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I’m afraid of sin but still doing it.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Women should give a permission to her husband if they can’t give a good sex to her husband.

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