What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA Savannah
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? tech writer
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Probably 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? No

Sex With Two Men

How long ago did this hookup happen? Two years

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was long term dating D. He’s tall and goofy. We had kicked around this idea in bed, but we never acted on it.

We were chilling at X, which is where we used to drink, and we struck a conversation with this guy J and his date. But she left and sometime towards closing and D started talking about hitting a line. J was average looking, but he was smart and told funny stories. Like the kind of guy where first you think, wow, goofy. But later you see something in the face.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So it began at J’s house where we went to do a little coke. We were all cutting up and playing, and every time D left the room for beer or whatever, J would get all close to me on the couch. So in a way D instigated the hookup because he kept leaving. But J was the one who suggested truth or dare, which I at first thought was dumb, but we made it hot and exciting. I’d say the questions were show-offy at first, like “what movie star who has never had a lead role do you think is super talented?” But I was drunk and feeling sexy, and both of the guys seemed into me. So I was sitting too close to J, and I pulled my skirt up a little bit. It was also me who asked the first sex question. It was “how many times a week do you jerk off,” which is always fun to ask. And J asked real serious, “what’s seven times four?”

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The first overtly sexual moment was when J dared D to play the rest of the drinking game with no pants. And D just dropped them. I was super aroused, and I then dared J to kiss me, which he did. I started going down on him and then D suggested we find a bed. So we did. It was mainly me and J playing in front of D. I sucked him and fucked him. Then I gave D head for a while. I apparently told J how good it felt, though I do not recall that. It ended when D finally came after we had finished. It was just a lot of touching and caressing and me doing it with someone else.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was super weird. D was somewhat freaked out and we left like an hour after. The next day we did discuss, and it took a little coaxing but we both admitted it was hot. We have no relationship with this person at all, but we talk about it in bed.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Cocaine

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Cocaine

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My girlfriend and D. He likes it. She loves me and thinks its fine.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I occasionally feel super kinky or something, like I’m in the “the lifestyle” which I am NOT.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Honestly, when I finally let go and came in front of both of them while I was on top of J.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? First fifty seconds after it was truly over and we were all just sorta naked.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It liberated me. It’s a thing I like. It’s almost impossible to arrange with two attractive, decent men, but yes.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? One slightly bad thing. Although I’m super into strong woman feminism, I liked how they moved me around in bed. Not forcefully exactly, but I was playing with letting them be in charge, which is a questionable fantasy.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s not a big deal. But keep it all on the DL among close friends and fam.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting

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