by LaughingMama

Gender: Female
Age: Late 20s
Race/ethnicity: Black
Location: West Coast
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Very
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Sexy in Paris…

How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 years

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One Night Stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had flown to Paris for a conference. It brought together people from all walks of life and all countries, with only one common denominator: the love of the French language. 
I was 19, bummed out because I had just found out that my asshat boyfriend had technically been cheating on his previous girlfriend with me… for 3 years (!!!). (Lucky me, I was the chosen one! Yay….) I was enraged- more so because he was away at college, making it impossible for me to punch him in the  face. I hated myself because I still wanted to be with him, and was still listening to his pathetic apologies. I was livid because I felt used, and I was looking for serious payback. Long story short, I was young, silly and in the perfect headspace to do something stupid- in this case, fuck someone else’s brains out.

My target (what an awful term) took the form of a conference attendee from another country. Seven years older, tall, fit, dark and handsome, with brains to match. I actually do not remember seeing him for the first time (it may have been on a bus ride to Versailles), but I remember thinking rather salacious thoughts after I noticed him. I am pretty friendly, so it was not long until I broke the ice with him (along with every other attendee). He seemed more interested in a cute petite brunette, and I had started looking elsewhere… until my final night in Paris.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The final night, we had a huge party… involving lots of champagne (I have no idea how I was actually allowed to drink- and there was at least someone else younger than I was, who drank too. Oh well- I just had a flute.)

I found myself in a smaller group with my target, the cute brunette and another guy. We played silly games (the boys threw grapes in the girls’ cleavages, etc.), and at some point the cute brunette disappeared with the other guy. Our now lonely two-some chatted for a while, then went on a walk around the swanky hotel we were in. One thing led to another, and we started kissing feverishly (I may have instigated it, but I do not recall.) We ended up in the broom closet, where I gave him a wet and slippery BJ, and we dry humped like rabbits. I was pretty serious about no bareback sex.

The conference organizers made us share rooms, so we could not go back upstairs because of our roommates. We stayed in that closet for a while, driving each other crazy. At some point, he broke down and went to see whether his roommate had left (he was catching an earlier flight). I went back to my own room. He rang me up 30 minutes or so later, and I headed to his bedroom.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed like mad people for a while (all tongue and teeth, we were so horny) and clothes fell to the floor. We went for a shower, and I gave him another BJ (what can I say, I love giving oral). He ate me out too, I believe, and rubbed his dick all over me. He was great at sucking nipples, I remember that. He also had a filthy mouth, which made me VERY happy.

Afterwards, we went to the bedroom fooled around for a long time (he thought he had no condoms, so there was no point in taking chances.) He kept calling me a little slut (which I loved), and I kept making him pleasure me with his hands, mouth and dick (no penetration.) At some point, he leapt from the bed and went rummaging like crazy in his luggage; he ended up finding a condom (YES), rolled it on and proceeded to fuck me like crazy. He was a little smaller than I was used to, but I did not give a shit. He was hot, horny and all I needed at that moment.

We had sex in all kinds of positions, for hours. At some point, we settled down a bit, and I realized I had to get out of there if I wanted to make my flight. I kissed him, squeezed his package and left in a jiffy. I believe he came to my room later for another goodbye kiss/hug thing- don’t know for sure.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? SPITE!!!! And he was hot.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yeah. I had had a flute of champagne (nothing too bad), and I believe he had had a few.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was elated. Bad, I know, but I was super happy about it. It freed me, made me feel desired, and reinforced that I did not have to stay with a douchebag. Cheating on him was not right, but it made me feel empowered. I justified myself by saying that I, at least, had stuck to a night. Pathetic, but whatever.

We clumsily tried the long distance relationship thing, because we actually had quite a few things in common. Fizzled out after a few emails.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends. They were happy, because, to be honest, no one liked my boyfriend.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Absolutely consensual.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nope. No regrets.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: It was far away, in a different environment, it was hot, fun and light.
Worst: It was cheating.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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