What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Los Angeles
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 48
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Sexy Play with Goth Girl
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Jessica was a 24-year-old beauty with a look that hovered between goth and punk: long black hair, a ring of mascara around the eyes, nose ring, generally dark clothing including a leather jacket and boots, shredded jeans and, at the time, a too-tight shirt that exposed her midriff and belly-button jewelry. Her body type was athletic, with long legs and a firm B-cup bust. Having something of a belly fetish, I would fantasize about sliding my arms around her long, thin waist from behind and playing with that navel jewelry. She probably would’ve been fine with it, come to think of it: she was creative, feisty, and positively smelled of sex. I’d been dating her older sister for a short while, but we started a low-grade flirting rapport that grew more and more heated the further we interacted.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Her sister was out of town, and I got a text from Jessica asking if I’d pick her up from a party. In the back of my mind, I thought it was strange that no one else had offered to drive her home, but I kept the silly logic questioning under lock and key, and bolted out there to get her.
Unsurprisingly, she was intoxicated, though not nearly as much as I might’ve expected (a good thing — I wouldn’t ever want to hook up with a completely wasted woman). She was certainly cogent and very touchy-feely, hugging me twice and even planting a kiss on my temple as we got in the car. I knew I was done for, however, the moment she said, “I give the perfect ear-nibble,” to which I replied with flirty doubt. Accepting the challenge, Jessica leaned in and began, well, nibbling and licking my ear. I shivered. She upped the ante by sliding her hand onto my thigh. I was beyond hard, and I think she even noticed the dime-sized spot of moisture from my pre-cum. She said it looked like I could use some help, and I said something about not wanting to be left hanging. She gave my junk a firm squeeze, then sat back with a teasing smile on her face.
The flirting grew astronomically on the way back, if you can even call it flirting anymore. The car shimmered with sexual tension. We got into a discussion about wrestling, how she enjoys watching female mud-wrestling and bikini wrestling (she considered herself bi), and that segued into a playful debate on which one of us could kick the other’s ass in a wrestling match.
When we got back to her apartment (which at the time she shared with her sister), I parked and followed her in, without even asking. We both kind of assumed the invitation was there. I was feeling pretty damn uninhibited now. As she went to open the door, I threw by arms around her waist and picked her up in a bearhug as she kicked and laughed, then softly body-slammed her onto the couch. She was surprised, but giggling. I was still rock hard, but didn’t try for anything just yet.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I stood up, and we play-wrestled on the carpet a little bit. She got her legs around me in a solid body scissor, and as I continued to struggle (mostly fake-struggling), she said, “If you don’t calm down, I’m gonna kiss you.” Well, needless to say, I ramped up the struggling. She grabbed my collar, pulled me in and we made out hot and heavy for several minutes, Jessica all the while teasing and squeezing my junk through my pants.
She suggested a drink, so I went to the kitchen. The counter circled around in a U-shape, some of it facing the fridge, and while I was digging through the shelves I felt feet poking my sides. I stood up, and Jessica, having hoisted herself atop the counter directly behind me, wrapped her legs around my waist, pulled me back to her and dove into another of her famous ear-nibbles.
I couldn’t stand it any longer. I had to fuck this girl. I tried to turn around, but she restrained me, even sliding her arms around my chest. I was entwined in her. Having ditched her boots when we came in, she began caressing my erection with her feet, asking me how badly I wanted it, telling me that because I pinned her in wrestling, she was gonna have to get revenge.
She led me up upstairs to her room, the doorframe of which had one of those chin-up bars fixed to it. She told me to stand in the doorway as she retrieved two handcuffs, then proceeded to cuff me to the bar, one cuff per wrist. She launched into kissing me, tonguing me, nibbling my ear, my neck. She gave me two hickeys. She was utterly ravenous. Again she cupped my bulge and asked me how much I wanted it. At this point my cock was a faucet of pre-cum, which she made light of.
She stepped behind me again and began tickling me, under my armpits and down my sides, then slowly danced her fingers down toward my boner.
Finally, at long last, she unzipped me, liberated my cock and, circling back around to face me, went down on me and gave me easily one of the top 3 blowjobs I’ve ever had in my life, her fingers and lips wrapped dutifully around my shaft as she sucked and slurped and took me deep, and then deeper until my balls exploded with what was probably a full cup of cum, most of which she swallowed though she gladly caught some of it across her face. I’d never been into the “bukake” kind of thing but that was surprisingly hot to see strands of my load on her nose and forehead, her smoky eyes in between peering up at me.
Afterwards, I returned the favor. I cuffed her to the bar and indulged my fantasy of worshiping her belly, and her belly button jewelry. I teased her from behind, my arms wrapped around her delicate waist as I teased her pussy one or two fingers at a time. By the time my tongue got there, she was so wet her inner thigh was slick.
We spent the night together, and sometime around 4am we woke up and fucked missionary-style. In the morning she gave me head in the shower, and that’s where we concluded our explosive tryst.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Screw cloud nine. I was on cloud ten. As expected, Jessica was a lot more free-wheeling than her sister, though we both knew she wasn’t terribly stable enough for typical “dating” (this by her own admission; she’s never had a boyfriend). We were cool afterward, and nothing else happened, though we still continued to flirt.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one else. I stopped dating her sister maybe two months later. By that point, Jessica had moved out of state for a job.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I’d always wanted to hook up with a goth girl, and I think that’s part of why I was so insanely attracted to her. Best part was finally indulging many a fantasy, and capping many a week of flirting. I also got to live out a fantasy of being bound and sucked off, which I didn’t even tell her about.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I cheated, technically, although her sister and I weren’t very serious. It was more on the casual dating side of things.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nope.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think people need to loosen up. They’re getting there, generation by generation, year by year, but we could still stand some further unwinding.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Entertaining as hell! And edifying.
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