What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Toronto, Canada
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Sexy Weekend with Friends
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Julie, my friend of a couple years. Met her through Arab circles in our home city. Beautiful, half-Lebanese like me. Quite a stunning body and a warm and infectious smile. That said I had never thought of her in a sexual way.
Tara, my roommate (I’m using the same fake name for her as for me because we also share the same real name, haha). Stoner/boarder, blonde, party girl, hilarious, huge tits. We always got along but never hooked up, nor did i think about it.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Tara and I were having my friends Julie and Lisa over to our University apartment for a party weekend. Tara didn’t know either of them, but they all caught on really fast. Of the three of us, only Lisa identified as bisexual, but she and I had hooked up in the past. It was something I never told anyone about and I was nervous about being alone with Lisa because she was a notorious flirt and I knew she’d probably try to get with me again. I wasn’t against the idea, but I didn’t think I was ready, so I arranged for Lisa to stay in Tara’s room and Julie to stay in mine. It worked out because Lisa was instantly attracted to Tara and started flirting with her right away. I had no nerves sleeping in a bed with Julie, which made it easy for us to cuddle. But cuddling with her felt REALLY nice.
The second and last night they were over the four of us went out dancing. Lisa really turned it on with Tara and the two of them spent the night dancing, snuggling and holding hands. I wasn’t really surprised because Lisa had once had the same effect on me, and it turned me on to see her with Tara, my roommate, who until then showed no signs of being anything but straight.
When we got back to the apartment (all four of us were drunk) Tara and Lisa quickly disappeared into Tara’s room, leaving Julie with nothing to do but hang out in mine. Sure enough, not much time passed before we started hearing Tara and Lisa’s moans from Tara’s bedroom. Our walls were really thin so we could hear pretty much everything they were doing. Julie and I tried to carry on a conversation but after a while, we both gave up and admitted we were listening. It was really sexy listening as I could practically see what Lisa was doing, having been with her already. Julie knew about our hook up and started asking me what it was like. The more I talked to Julie about it, and the more we could hear of Lisa/Tara, the more turned on Julie got, and me too. Eventually, Julie told me this was all driving her crazy and could I help her. I asked how I was supposed to help her and she replied, “can you help me get off?” I laughed and immediately kissed her.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Julie was totally inexperienced with a girl so I had to be in control, which turned me on. After making out with her I lied her down, slipped her underwear off under her dress and started fingering her. She was really wet and her moans as I stuck my fingers in deeper and deeper really turned me on. I pulled her dress off and started sucking on her tits as I fingered her, bringing her close to orgasm. She asked me why she was naked and I wasn’t, and I quickly got out of my clothes. Her fingers found me and started tentatively rubbing me as I fingered her and kissed her. The more I bit her lip the more into it she got, and she was eventually fingering me just as hard as I was heard. Between her moans and Tara’s and Lisa’s, I was so close to coming. I asked Julie if she wanted to 69 and she agreed. Julie’s pussy tasted so good I couldn’t stop licking her, and it felt so weird and sexy to have her lips on mine. We went on like that for what felt like a half hour, until we both came. At some point, I guess Lisa and Tara had stopped, because the next day they told us about how loud we were, haha.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Julie and I woke up naked in each other’s arms. We had a shower together, right after Lisa and Tara got out, haha. I went down on Julie in the shower and she came again.
The four of us were totally flirty and touchy-feely with each other for the rest of the day; none of us bothered to hide what had happened. Lisa was the most surprised about Julie, our friend of years who’d never done anything like that. The two of them hooked up later, of course.
Lisa and Julie left, leaving Tara and me alone with each other. We couldn’t help seeing each other differently now. Tara told me she loved my friends, haha. Late that night we smoked a joint and talked about how horny it made each of us hear the other fuck. Soon we were making out and I had my hands on her tits, which looked better than ever at this point. We fucked, and that was the beginning of our FWB relationship, which continues to this day.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Not too many people. Lisa said it was funny we didn’t hook up, which in hindsight I agree with. I’d like to be with her again but haven’t had a chance yet.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Julie was just so sexy, and it kicked off my relationship with Tara, who I still can’t really get enough of.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I was a little drunker than I would have preferred.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I fully embrace my bisexuality now, and I have had no problems thus far with casual sex. It made me feel really good about myself and brought both of my friends closer to me, in a surprising way.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Just that you might not know you’ll gel sexually with someone until you try it.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? As of now, like I said, it makes me feel positive and wanted. I want to pursue sex with more people now but I know I have to be cautious because not every experience is positive.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it! This story was an important turning point in my development and I wanted to share it.
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