What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 53
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Netherlands
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? House husband
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 100?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Shagging Turkish Guy from the Immigrants’ Quarter
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? First time, guy from ethnic minority in this country. He used an older picture and I was duped I think. Still, he’s much younger than me but my pics are current.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? PlanetRomeo website, we were trying to meet for several days. I had a cold at the time. Finally, I decided to go to his place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Furious kissing, biting of lips (by partner). I sat on his cock but it was too small to stay in my ass, we tried several times, we both had some pleasure doing this, finally I sucked him until he came in my mouth (I spit out the semen).
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? A bit of disgust, not sure about the hygiene of my partner, also no connection whatsoever with him, language and class barrier. Of course, some concern as I found broken skin on my lips.s
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, Submission / Relinquishing power, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? It was the wrong guy, kind of lowering my standards. On the other hand, I have to go down on quality because of my age.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I felt wanted by a younger guy.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He was the wrong guy.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? A bit, I have to be more picky.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? In the gay world, it’s much easier that in the straight one. It’s always an individual experience and it may of may not affect/help/satisfy/influence you.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Cool, read about it on the New Yorker/
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