What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? California
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Swinger trying to break free
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30ish
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? This is the 1st

Sharing My Fiancé

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10+ years

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? One was my fiancé (now wife). She is about 5’6”, 140 lbs (slim), 36C cup (DD’s now after kids) and shaved. The other was my friend who is male, about 6’0”, 190 lbs with blonde hair and blue eyes. He is hung shorter than me (7” vs me @ 9”), but just a bit thicker.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was no planning for this. My friend and I were drinking at my place and joking around while she was out with her friends. Somehow, we got to talking about sexual stuff and I confessed that I fantasized about sharing her. Later, she got home buzzed and VERY horny, started aggressively kissing me and it went from there.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? During the hookup almost everything happened. We had all been drinking as I said and it kind of just progressed. What started as she and I kissing on the couch soon ended up as fondling/touching while my friend watched and finally we were having sex right in front of him. I (after asking her if she was okay with it) started stripping her more and more and eventually even guided her hand to his dick. He jumped in at that point and started kissing her/feeling her up while she and I had sex. Then (after checking again that she was okay with things) I pulled out and switched places with my friend. All said and done we switched like that several times, we both felt her up (and she us), ate her out and fucked her. She moaned passionately both for me and him, eagerly rocking her hips against whoever was in her at the time. At one point she even sucked me while he was inside her. By the end, I came twice, both times barely pulling out in time to cum on her stomach/pelvis. She seemed to orgasm several times herself from both of us. My friend claims never to have orgasmed, but I wonder if he just didn’t pull out and didn’t want to admit it at the time.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? To this day it is the hottest experience I have ever had! Seeing my gorgeous fiancé/wife impaled by my friend’s manhood was like watching my favorite pornstar ever and then getting to join in! I never really planned it happening again and I think my lack of experience and reassurance to her made her uncomfortable after. We talked about it briefly and a similar situation happened many years later with someone else but that didn’t work out.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend and I talked about it later, comparing notes so to speak. She and I talked too, but she is never as forthcoming or open sober as she is with a little alcohol. In the end she was okay with it after I assured her I wasn’t mad or upset.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Seeing my girl being touched, kissed, licked and stretched out by another guy and hearing her moans the whole time. Like watching the best porn ever, with your favorite star of all time and then joining in!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It hasn’t happened again!

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s odd to think I want to share my wife. It’s not what we’re taught right? But in the end, it was so hot and so sexy I wouldn’t hesitate to do it again!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Let me reiterate; ALL parties were consenting! I also checked in with her at least 3 times during the hookup to make sure she was ok to keep going and didn’t want to stop. Each time she would shrug, say “whatever” or “sure” and then start kissing me deeply again.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Personally, I loved it and wish it could happen more often. I think the most important part is that 2 partners are on the same page and know each other’s boundaries.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Cool site. I love this kind of thing.

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