What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 69
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? retired
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
She Has A Friend
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was about 5′ 7″, attractive, radish brown hair with a nice figure. She was in her 50s. She was a friend of the girl my friend had been seeing for several years. They were on vacation in Florida and I happened to be in Florida at the time. My friend said please come visit, my date has friend that would like to meet you.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I drove down to visit them where they were staying and we all partied a bit, food, drink and music. We all kidded around a bit. I suppose I had designs on her immediately, though getting to know her was a bit awkward because she was reserved. That night she agreed to let me sleep with her, though she said, NO SEX. So we stripped to our underwear and slipped beneath the covers. We kissed and caressed and fondled, but had no sex. She was so turned on she was ready to explode.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The next night when we went to bed, off came all the clothes and we went at it. She immediately started sucking my cock and then mounted me, her tits bouncing. After I climaxed in her, she immediately put her underwear back on thereby containing all my juices in her. That seemed strange to me. Later that night we went at it again and because all the juices were still in her it was very sloppy and didn’t smell all that great to me, a turn off for me. We had sex on the evening of day three as well, although I was losing interest she was getting more interested.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Over the next few days I got to know her better and became less interested in part because she had conservative views about so many everyday things that were unwavering. She also became too interested continuing a relationship with me while all the while I am trying to gently distance myself from her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend who was with the group.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? For the reasons stated above. The better I came to know and understand her, the less I wanted to be around her.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The raw sex.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The social complications afterward that took a few months to dissolve completely.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, be cautious. Get to know the person first.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Ideally, I would like a poly amorous relationship. Perhaps fall in love too easily.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting – Learning
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