by Ellie

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Rochester area
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Orthodox Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Short Term Fling

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck-buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s in a frat and I’m in a sorority. He is well acquainted with my ‘sisters.’ We met at a party. Before I hooked up with him I thought he was adorable.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went back to his apartment because he wanted to hang out. I figured we could make out for a bit but it ended up leading to sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He walked me home right after we did it. We made out and had sex twice; not much happened. The experience was alright. He is a good sweet talker.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I didn’t have one but he did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t use a condom for half of it and I didn’t ask him for his history.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? People have casual sex all the time in college and I was curious what it was like. I felt lonely too and didn’t want to push this guy away.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We were intoxicated. I was really drunk and I think he was too.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After he walked me home I cried because I felt guilty and ashamed. We didn’t use a condom and I didn’t want to have sex with him in the first place but was caught up in the moment and it’s hard to say no.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends and basically everyone knows. People talk in Greek life. They criticized me for not using a condom which is understandable. But he had hooked up with one of my other ‘sisters’ in the past and that was very awkward.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? He had been hitting on me for a few days. I didn’t want to have sex with him but ended up persuading myself into it as soon as the clothes were coming off.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Kind of. We hooked up five more times after that throughout the semester and I’ve grown attached.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: he was the first guy who went down on me. Worst: I could never date him, and I feel disposable. I don’t think I could ever casually hook up with someone again. I can’t think clearly because of sex. I feel perpetually confused.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I know that I shouldnt hook up with him again. But I want to and I don’t know what is right. To follow my rational or emotional brain. Do I walk away or see what happens. I don’t know.

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