What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? South Africa
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Lawyer
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
He Shot His Load Inside Me
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had been single for about a year and really needed to get some sex. I had had friends who had some success with online hookups, and I thought I would give it a try – one night only,y with no complications. I went on a site and posted an ad; within an hour I had over 20 responses, which really surprised me but I decided to go with it. I am a very introverted and shy person, so I looked at the profiles and chose a guy I would least likely to ever encounter in the real world and organised to meet.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He said he was free that very day, I said okay. At that point I was getting really excited. He said he would book a hotel and we could meet there which worked out perfectly as I was unsure about going to a strangers house or inviting him to my place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I met him in the lobby, it was a little bit of a dingy place, but I thought that since it might have been for the anonymity, it would do. He was very tall and very dark, not quite my type but well I thought what the hell. I was crazy horny. He took me to the room, and started to undress me. He laid me on the bed, opened my legs, and slowly began to eat me out. That felt so good, I was so wet at this point it was dizzying. He took off his clothes and got on top of me, kissing me from the bottom up to my navel, then slowly moving to my neck and mouth. We kissed quite passionately for a while and then he suddenly shoved his cock inside me. I was quite shocked as I had not seen him put on protection and I tried to stop him, and asked why he did not have any. He kept going, despite my protestations, and shot his load inside me. I got off the bed and cleaned up, got dressed and left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He sent an email to say what I had done was not cool, I replied with an email to say that what he had done was not cool. Not only had he not cared for my health, he had also not bothered to stop when I asked him to. It had all been done in under two minutes, with no thoughts to whether or not I would get pregnant. I blocked him and had no future communication with him. I did however go for STI tests soon after, as I was terrified I had contracted something.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told no one. My secret to the grave.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? It was not well planned. We should have discussed protection before the hookup, it would have avoided any misunderstandings.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The foreplay was great.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That he continued to pound away inside me despite my protestations and shot his load inside me.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
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