What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Senorita was in the city visiting a mutual friend for a few days. This friend brought her along to a party I’d organized. She was 5’3″, dressed in a strapped crop top, outlining her obviously nicely shaped breasts, with possible implants, and a mid length skirt with a high side slit, exposing her well toned legs. She had long wavy brown hair, with make up to show minimal make up. She was in her early 30s but I could tell she knew how to take care of herself and look good, and she knew she was hot! It was quite obvious she was botoxing and collagen injecting, but nowadays I think many women do it, often way before they need to!
However, I was quite distracted with the other guests and didn’t show much attention to her other than social banter, mixing with other friends.
It was only after awhile we gradually just started talking. We glided easily into conversation and somehow within 15 mins, we’d strayed into the topic of how we viewed relationships, and even sex. It was very refreshing. Even my friends noticed how much we were talking throughout the night and how quickly I ‘pounced’. Except I wasn’t trying to do anything consciously. We genuinely gelled over our similar tastes in alcohol, even liking the same exact bottle, and outlook on life.
During the obligatory photo poses, her hand strayed onto my thighs for several shots while we were sitting next to each other. At this point I was still sort not in hook up mode, but just enjoying her company. In fact, it was only when I spread my arms and she thought I was trying to pull her in, that she stood closer to me, that I realized that we were having a ‘moment’! Funnily, she later told me how she was sort of frustrated yet appreciative of my non-predatory behavior, which isn’t really me!
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Once we had cleared any misunderstanding of what we wanted (FINALLY), we were very hugging and smiley, with my arm behind her brushing the small of her back and hips, while she wrapped her arm around my waist, with tender brushes every time my hand dropped to her hip.
She excused herself to the washroom, but asked where it was. So I quickly volunteered to show her. I was still in ninja mode, so I danced with her across the dance floor to the exit, so I could keep touching her in front of everyone. Once we were out of sight from the group, I pulled her in for a big hug. She looked at me with her eyes and I brought her to the very empty handicapped toilets, and she pulled me in with her!
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Then a switch flipped and I wanted to tasted those collagen injected pouty lips, as I grabbed that Spanish peachy culo. They were firm from working out. I was kissing her softly with passion, and she reciprocated with grabbing my neck for a better angle, since I was taller than her. So I picked her up and put her on the support bar, where straddled my waist as we kissed. My hand wandered down her hips onto the slit and her bare skin, and I could feel her goosebumps flare as I pressed in.
My hand slipped into the slit and my fingers found her g string, and I pulled back out of respect but she put my hand right back, which accelerated my erection to where she obviously felt it. I flipped her skirt open to expose her leg, so I could touch her outer thigh, and she reached under my shirt to feel my torso, I was smiling a bit when she started softly using her nails on my skin, and she said “Ah, you like that!”
I moved my hand slowly up her hips, to her side, with my thumbs, titillating the outside of her sumptuous and ample breasts, waiting for her to show me she wanted more. Once she lifted her chest, I put my fingers into her top to pull the straps down, skimming the top of her breasts, which caused her to push her chest up to invite me to pull them out to play. Funnily the top was still held up by her cleavage, so I put my hands up to her face as I kissed her and slowly traipsed down her nape, continuing on her sternum, until I hit the top of her top, slid 2 fingers into it, and brushed over her very erect left nipple as I pulled the top down.
By now she’d stopped whatever she was doing to enjoy this sensual dance, allowing me to take her top down. I became a lot more handsy and lustful, even with the infrared sensor of the toilet continuously flushing on and off, which made us giggle as we continued.
I’d gotten her top down to her waist and her skirt hiked up exposing her g-string. As a gentleman, I took my shirt off for her to sit on, giving me an excuse to put my hands on her butt cheeks and and spied her wet spot. I whispered “uh-oh!”, slipped my fingers into the side and pulled it aside, exposing her trimmed pussy, which was glistening wet. As I teased it with my fingers, I whispered I wanted to taste it, and typical self conscious woman she is, she apologized for the unwaxed pubes, which I just smiled and kissed her lips and worked my way down to her pussy, watching her every deep breath, clenched diaphragm and abs as I moved down.
I licked and sucked her clit and labia as she grasped my head, clawing my hair and pressing my head in. I saw that as a sign to finger her slowly, sliding my way to her G spot, which made her pull back. I knelt down and pulled out my dick to stroke as I was giving her head. There was a moment in my head where I was envisioning myself kneeling down, stroking my dick with one hand, while giving heading and fingering her, as she put her feet on my shoulders. I giggled a bit and she asked why I laughed. It distracted her mid-ectasy enjoyment to notice my dick was out, and she went “Oh pobrecito, no one is paying attention to your Alfonso!”
I laughed at how she just gave my cock a nickname as she held it in her hand and jumped into my arms again to be straddle me. I rested her on the bar again as she rubbed my cock head, using the precum as lube. I started thrusting slowly as I kissed her harder, and she put “Alfonso” right at her labia, which caused me to pull back a bit.
I said I don’t have a condom and she rubbed my cock head with her fingers, dug in slightly into the meatus, which made me pull back a bit in confusion, then she smelled her fingers, and then licked them!
Then she said “it’s ok, I trust you if you want to.”
My alerts were on high and I was VERY tempted to fuck her raw, and as I was contemplating my first bareback in months, with a girl I just met, on cue, there was a knock on the door. Which broke my trance and I just thrusted my cock in a little and whispered, you’ll get this later! Then I proceeded to get down on my knees and give her head as I fingered very fast on her G spot. The suddenness of this move and the ferocity of my finger fucking caught her by surprise and she jerked in excitement while curling up as she came in my mouth a little . But I didn’t relent and kept at it, imagining I was inside her fucking her hard, and she began to moan, I sprung up to kiss her to keep her quiet, still finger fucking her hard and she came again, but I didn’t stop and pinched her nipple, and this time, she came hard with a bit of squirt. She wasn’t expecting that and tried to push my hand off, but I kept going and she clenched her teeth and grasped my hair, as I kissed her, grabbed her nipple and finger fucked her, as the toilet flushed again and again. She writhed as she came and I finally relented and pulled out, and she gasped in relief. I was smiling as I kissed her and washed my hands and cock at the tap. She said “What about Alfonso?” I smiled back “Later tonight, Alfonso is going to be inside you hard and make you cum even more!”
She kissed me on that line and went to tidy herself, I retrieved my shirt and found a wet cum stain. So I washed it a bit and used the dryer to try air it out. By now we’d been in the toilet for about 25 mins, so as I opened the door, there were a few people waiting outside, fortunately not anyone we knew.
So we walked the toilet sex exit of shame together and went back to the party.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We obviously went back together after the party, and my closest friends gave me the wink of knowledge. We spent her last few days together, on dates and in bed. We talked about what we wanted and didn’t and we both wanted the fun without the commitment of intercontinental dating. So FwB was the most practical solution whenever we can meet up in the future.
In the next few days I did finally stop using condoms with her as we enjoyed each other. She’s bi so she was more than open to threesomes, and we did try to find girls she’d like but didn’t want to try too hard.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature), Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Power / Dominance, Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, particularly my female friends were very amused, because this was the first time I’d shown my ‘fuck boi’ hunting side in front of them.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Senorita and I gelled on quite a few levels, including what we wanted. We have great fun and I was her first and only Asian guy, and now she’s more open to Asian men. She said her friends had their eyes opened too as they suffered from the stereotypes of Asian men, with the requisite small penis and generally bad lovers. I’m glad I represented!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing except maybe I should’ve fucked her in the toilet! She still gives me shit about that!
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at all. In fact, it reinforced my beliefs on sex and it’s cool to find others who share it.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Senorita approves of this reliving of this story as I type it in her presence!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Humans function on chemical reactions. Positive sexual experiences can be had by most, without judgement. Emotional connection sex isn’t better, it just feels different because of the hormonal reaction to being ‘in love’, which is also another chemical reaction.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I find it to be great except for the racial aspect of it. Senorita found this site and noticed most of the Asian men are depicted as bad lovers and/or lesser endowed in the hetero area. She wanted to write this but English isn’t her first language and didn’t feel it would be genuine if I ‘ghost’ wrote it for her. I agree and I hope more women write more about Asian men, and also have more Asian men writing about their fun in the heteroworld
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