by Callie

Gender: female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: white
Location: Dundee, UK
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: single
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Slept with My Best Friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? two years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? sex with a friend

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was my best friend since the age of 11/12. I’d started to develop really strong feelings for her around the age of 15/16 and consequently told her about them when we were 18. Nothing had ever happened between us before apart from some flirting so it was totally unexpected. She’s probably not what people would consider as hot but I definitely find her extremely sexy and attractive.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at her house at 2am, watching movies. She started flirting with me and pointedly not looking at me whenever she said something a bit risky. I definitely hadn’t planned for anything to happen but when she began flirting with me I thought that maybe something could. She instigated it and kissed me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There was a bit of dominating on her part which I definitely enjoyed. We both had orgasms. She seemed a bit nervous at first but figured it out pretty quickly. I stayed over that night but we didn’t speak much afterwards because it was so late.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t take any precautions because it was her first time and I’d been checked before.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? My reasons were just that it was something I’d wanted for a while.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Neither were involved.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great about it. I expected us to establish a relationship but that didn’t happen. She totally cut me out of her life straight after, deleting me from social networking sites and not answering any texts or calls. Im still very much in love with her now. I miss her greatly and I don’t regret sleeping with her.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t discussed it with anyone, I moved city and none of my current friends know her so I’ve never found a reason to discuss it.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual for both of us. I definitely wanted it and I hope she did too.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I don’t regret it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was the domination. The worst was the outcome afterwards. I do now feel like casual hookups are a lot easier for me and it opened me up to the knowledge that I do enjoy being submissive.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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