What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Texas, USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Tech Support
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? kinky, submissive
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11 (8 intercourse, 3 oral only)
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 9

S&M With an Oral Twist

How long ago did this hookup happen? April 2015

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? So, the last story I shared about a year ago ended with me saying that it would probably be my last one to share since Marie and I were in a closed monogamous relationship and engaged to be married later that year. Since then, she has been slowly warming up to the idea of trying out some sexual experiences with other, very select people.

Marie and I are active in the local BDSM lifestyle and go to dungeon parties fairly regularly. She is quite the dominatrix, and I’m her obedient submissive. We are good friends with another couple, Rick and Jana, and often go to these parties with them. Rick is the dominant and Jana is his submissive, but she also has other play partners and switches between being dominant and submissive depending on the scene.

Marie is 5’6″ with long, dark, curly hair, ample breasts, a curvy but not chubby frame, and has eyes that will captivate you and make you her slave if you look into them too deeply. Jana is about 5’1″ with straight brown hair, medium-sized breasts, and a stocky frame, and a pair of lips that you would swear say “fuck me” without ever forming the words.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Marie and I had recently had a conversation with Rick and Jana about helping Marie overcome her fears and shyness about being more openly sexual. Sometime after that conversation, Marie and Jana had decided on a way to work toward that during the next BDSM party we went to. They didn’t tell me about it though since they wanted to make it a surprise.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At the party, Marie and I started getting ready to do our scene (we normally have a scene during these parties where I am stripped, bound to something immobile, and beaten by her). She stripped me naked in the main room and tied my wrists to an overhead beam. Then she blindfolded me. I knew something was up by the look in her eye and the sly grin on Jana’s face the moment before the blindfold went on. Then Marie whispered in my ear, “You are not allowed to cum.” Obediently, I responded with, “yes, miss.”

The scene started fairly normally. She used some light floggers to get me warmed up and then progressed to harder, more painful toys. Shortly after beginning though, I felt a hand lightly grab my cock. Even though I couldn’t see, I knew it had to be Jana, both from the look she had on her face moments before and because Marie had said before that Jana is the only woman she felt she could trust with my cock. She began stroking my cock, then I felt her gliding her tongue along its surface. Eventually, she took it into her mouth, and I felt like I was going to melt. The mixture of pain from the beating and pleasure from the blowjob was exquisite. I could tell we were drawing a crowd by the sounds of conversation around us, and that turned me on even more.

At one point, Marie and Jana switched positions. Jana started flogging me while Marie sucked on my cock for a while, and then switched back. I was floating and my head was spinning. The pain from the beating was helping me to follow my instructions and not cum, but that was quickly being washed away by the endorphin rush from the beating and mixing with the physical pleasure of the blowjob and the exhibitionistic rush of being on display for so many people.

Marie brought the scene to conclusion, took off my blindfold, and had me thank Jana for being so helpful. She took me to a quiet corner to cuddle me for aftercare, and told me she was proud of me for not cumming.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Marie and I left the party very sexually energized. We fucked passionately when we got home and made love several times in the following weeks still riding the thrill of that party.

Things didn’t really change between Jana and us. Marie was surprised how little jealousy she felt about the whole experience. Jana has sucked my cock a few times since then, but only with Marie’s permission and limitations she sets (which currently are that she has to be present and that I don’t cum).

This was also the first time Marie has sucked cock in front of other people. She was afraid that it would hurt her image as a dominant woman. Now she’s not quite so concerned about it, but that fear is still there.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We’ve talked about it with other people in the BDSM lifestyle. They always react positively.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Giving a boost to an already great sex life between Marie and myself and also helping her get over some sexual hangups.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not being allowed to cum was rough, but it did also heighten the experience.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is like fire. Sometimes you need it to keep things warm, but it can be very destructive if it gets out of control.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!