by Chaos

Gender: Female
Age: 18
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: Cambridge
Highest education received: High school diploma
Occupation: student
Relationship status: single
Religious affiliation: non
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? like 3 months

How would you best classify this hookup? one night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? From when I first met him (I’ll call him P.) I thought that I might want to fuck him. He came around to our house pretty often and saw me in all kinds of states, as he was my housemate’s friend (i lived with 3 guys, all in their 3rd year of uni, I was in my last year of sixthform) I wouldn’t have thought he’d be that into me as he looks more like a “trendy” confident guy you know and although I do consider myself attractive I’m more alternative and don’t have long perfect hair or whatever (and another minor detail: he kind of had a girlfriend, well they’re relationship was “complicated”, as they weren’t properly together but still lived in the same house (room even?) as they’re both in the last year of uni and didn’t really want to bother to find a new place i suppose). Anyway, what led to me thinking that he might be a bit interested in me was how he was always looking at me, eye contact, we’d just look into each others eyes, it was pretty mesmerizing sometimes, his dark blue eyes going so well with his dark brown hair. So, to sum it up, there was a bit of something going on.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were on one of our nights out clubbing me, my housemates, their friends. I don’t remember if I was especially drunk, but as usual I was pretty drunk and as usual I was doing my slutty club dancing (I don’t think my slutty dancing skills are too bad, I don’t over do it and (at least I like to imagine) i maintain some sort of class, and i feel pretty attractive and happy while dancing). At some point i must’ve done some moves on P., like danced slutilly (btw, I don’t take slut as an offence) in his direction, at some point our bodies were touching, my bum rubbing against cock area, his hands on my legs. I don’t quite remember how it happened but suddenly we were outside the club full on making out and i remember saying something like “i wanna have sex with you” (I’m such a slut lol) and then we were walking away from the club to find some  distant, “hidden” location to fuck. So what happened that night was not planned but there’d been some vibes going on for a while.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Well, we found our hidden place which wasn’t very hidden, basically in the entrance bit of a shop, opposite the prestigious colleges. I remember a guy walking by, i don’t know if he saw us but we were too drunk and horny to care. The sex bit itself, as it always is (according to my one past experience and what I’ve heard from friends) wasn’t particularly memorable. I can’t say he was bad, he came pretty quickly which could be considered an advantage considering where we were, and you can’t really judge someone on their fucking skills when you’re having drunk sex in a streetcorner. Well, of course I didn’t have an orgasm but it was exciting and fun and wrong, so i can’t complain.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Of course we didn’t use protection or discuss STIs. I’m shit with protection. And wouldn’t that kinda ruin your drunken horny moment if you were like “hey, ya got any STDs?”, plus i’m guessing they either wouldn’t know if they had an std and if they did, and were already prepared to have sex with you without giving you a warning, they’d lie to you anyway. And I knew he had this ongoing thing with this girl and was pretty sure he probably didn’t have any stds (although i wasn’t so sure about myself, but i took a test like a month ago, surprisingly it turned out that i was clean). Well, i wouldn’t take any protection advice from myself, pulling out is mostly my prefered method, and if it goes wrong there’s always the morning after pill. I think i might be infertile anyway, I’ve been having unprotected sex for the last 3 years and i’ve never gotten pregnant. Anyway.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? – He’s pretty hot – There was a vibe going on, some sort of sexual tension, I don’t know with some boys i’m just like I know I’m gonna have sex with you sometime – I think my slightly twisted mind is more attracted to boys who are kinda in a relationship (unless i’m friends with the girl, then it’s a no go), it makes it more challenging in a way i suppose

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We were both really really drunk. I think he threw up later. but i was alright, just my usual very drunk self, still in control of my body and feeling fine.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We walked back to the club, the bitchy bouncer wouldn’t let me in to get my jacket and bag, and it was freezing outside, i think P. gave me his jumper. I felt alright about it, you know in that state of drunkeness most things are alright. He said we’d lie about where we were if questioned. Which is a bit ugh but understandable cos he wouldn’t want his girlfriend thing to find out (she wasn’t really his gf, i just lack a better word, maybe ex-gf but i’m not sure). Of course I didn’t have any expectations for a future, i only thought maybe we’ll fuck again one day and perhaps on something that resembles a bed or at least with a roof on top of our heads, but it never happened but I’m not upset about that either, although if the opportunity comes up i’d probably sleep with him again. The next day i felt pretty shitty/guilty. I felt a bit guilty for a while, but i didn’t regret it either. It was especially awkward when I saw the girl and she was nice to me as well so i had to be nice to her but i didn’t want to be too friendly cos i thought like i slept with your kinda bf i’d feel even bitchier if i were to be really friendly to you. 

The more shocking thing happened about a month or more later. The girl was going to meet up with a guy, which should be ok for P. cos you know, they weren’t really together. But instead he decided to get super pissed off and punch a fucking mirror lols. He had to be taken to hospital and had done serious damage to his hand and arm. What a fucking hypocrite, what a fucking idiot. Like, seriously how much more hypocritical can you get. I do hate boys sometimes. It’s ok when he fucks someone the girl knows but when the girl is just gonna meet up with someone he breaks a fucking mirror. He’s a bit of an idiot, but i was never intellectually attracted to him anyway. I’d still fuck him cos I don’t necessarily have to be intellectually attracted to someone to fuck them, physical attraction is mostly enough, as long as it’s fun you know. Now that i think of it i think a lot of the boys I’ve slept with were kinda idiots, but who cares, as long as I don’t see them again or they don’t get clingy. I was scared that P. was gonna act awkward around me but it was all fine, i might’ve been a little bit weird when he came around like the next day tho. We never told anyone, well non of my housemates that is.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Quite a few people. All my close friends. I’m always very open about my sexuality and my sex life towards my friends, more to some than others, but in my opinion it should be less of a stigma to openly talk about sex. One of my bestfriends, F., was the first person i told, i think i texted her the next day when i was feeling pretty guilty about what i’d done, i don’t quite remember her reaction but it was probably something like oh you silly girl omg but don’t worry you’ll be alright. I like F.’s reactions, she manages to tell me when she thinks i’ve done something that’s slightly wrong (and she also knows that i know so i think that’s why she doesn’t make me feel more uncomfortable about it), and not make me feel shit about it at the same time and she’s done similar things so she understands me. I’m lucky i’ve got liberal thinking friends that are accepting and pretty non-judgmental. For me the punching mirror thing was more of a shock and my friends of course agreed with me that he’s an absolute hypocrite and that a lot of boys are. boys can be such idiots, they manage to prove this over and over again. Btw I’m saying boy but he is 21, does that still count as a “boy” or is it a “man”? idk i’d rather say boy, man sounds intimidating and imposing, boys are cuter.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yeah sure.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? no, regret isn’t really my thing.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best? it was fun and exciting, the time leading up to sex, i mostly tend to find pre-sex, “hehe i’m so gonna sleep with you one day”, period more exciting. 
Worst? Hmm, the sex itself wasn’t very memorable but you can’t really expect anything better from a drunk one night thing on the street. 
No, it’s not changed me, even tho most one nightstands turn out to be rather shitty, I don’t think i’m merely doing it for the sex. I think it’s more the excitement, and feeling good about myself, it flatters me in a way, makes me feel more powerful cos i’ve got to be the one who makes the first move etc.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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